- Divorce is a sin, so if they are trying to get hardcore religious and lecturing people, they need to handle their hypocrisy first.
- Get them more involved in their current religious organisation instead of the cults
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Would depend on their organisation, some wacky organisations do exist. It's best to get involved in a mainline established Church - heck, even conservative offshoots in the USA such as the ACNA or the PCA would still try and level their head more.
They've always been religious but like in the sane way.
They probably are/were attending a normal Church
Isn’t divorce only a sin for Catholics who don’t get it annulled? I thought divorce was more acceptable among Protestants
I'm assuming the more hardline you go, the harder the rules get.
My parents got divorced in 1981. My mom was raised Pentecostal (the Tammy Faye Bakker kind, not the long skirts kind), and she was intermittently ultra-involved in the church.
During one of those times (in the mid-'90s), she came to the understanding that she could never remarry because the only "biblically acceptable" reason for divorce was unfaithfulness. Since that wasn't why she and my dad got divorced, dating anyone else would be considered adultery. So she swore off dating.
To be fair, I don't know if this is something that came from the church or something she came up with on her own. I just remember thinking it was pretty ridiculous.
So whether it's official church doctrine or not, I do think that the more extreme the church, the more extreme the rules are.
Yeah, that’s probably a fair assumption
Divorce is a sin, so if they are trying to get hardcore religious and lecturing people, they need to handle their hypocrisy first.
Some religious cults will pressure divorced people to remarry their original spouse, regardless of the reason for the divorce.
Most people join cults for community and structure and answers. There's resources like https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-mind/202104/the-definitive-guide-helping-people-trapped-in-cult and https://www.peopleleavecults.com/post/help-cult-involved but I think the general idea is stay calm don't crash out when talking about it, help them notice the manipulation techniques being used that are common to cults, asking questions that help undermine indoctrination and inspire more skepticism, and provide alternatives for the reasons they are wanting to join or stay in a cult without the manipulation and lies a cult requires to exist.
They've always been religious but like in the sane way.
They're probably not in a cult if they're still going to the previous Church. Likely a mental episode of somekind. If they got more involved with the Church that they were sane in, it might help.
If they're Christian:
Matthew 5:32 ESV
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
They've always been religious but like in the sane way.
Try and encourage them to stay in a Church if it's a well established sane one. Maybe get them to go to fellowship events there or meet with friends. Isolating themselves is the worst thing for them.
Encourage them to seek therapy instead?
Tried that, they don't like therapists because they don't think any therapist could ever "understand them like God can"
When I was looking at potential therapists, there were more than a few that slapped their Christian beliefs right there on their website and made it a point to state that they integrate their faith into their therapy, so there are probably options like that available to them.
I'll look into this, thanks!
Agreed. And try to frame it as an addition to their church support not a replacement.
Well, considering they’re leaning into the evangelical bullshit… I don’t know that i concur with the last bit.
Move out, change you phone number. Check in on them occasionally, maintain your distance until you're comfortable. Neither of you owe automatic allegiance unless you choose to.
It's their parent's, OP is worried about them and you're telling OP to abandon them?
They're not OPs responsibility, nor should OP feel obligated to be traumatized by them.