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[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Because landmasses don't have reproductive organs with which to procreate.

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[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

I'm not in most countries

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 121 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Countries are just arbitrary pieces of land and cannot produce offspring. 😌

[–] Melobol@lemmy.ml 77 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Late stage capitalism.
Having kids is really expensive and insane amount of responsibility. Childcare is a full time job - so you need to go one worker per family, or be able to afford paying for it.

[–] HazardousBanjo@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

We are living through the collapse of capitalism. Countries will fall I to 1 of 2 categories in response.

  1. Socialist
  2. Fascist

Given most countries are lead by the hyper rich, expect to see most being forcibly directed to #2

[–] maegul@lemmy.ml 41 points 1 week ago (1 children)

And it also becomes recursive I think.

People want to be good parents. But in late stage capitalism, that means setting your children up to succeed in that environment. If people struggle to set themselves up as parents, they can’t have faith that they’ll be able to set their children up such that there’s just no point. Especially if you start thinking about the future and whether your grandkids could even be ok.

[–] porkloin@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago (2 children)

As someone living in the USA going into my late 30s still without kids, you nailed it. We’ve been married for 10 years. In a different world, we might have had a kid at some point in the last 5, but between covid and climate change and the second Trump term and the general sense that everything is about to implode, it doesn’t really make us feel inspired to try.

To be clear, at the moment we have everything we would need to be parents if we wanted to. But the prospect of subjecting a kid to young adulthood in the 2040s seems brutal. We’re what I would consider “nudge-able” into having a kid or two, but the world keeps giving us nothing but nudges in the direction of choosing to be childfree for life.

Random example from this year: we keep getting barraged with news slop about how our jobs are about to all be replaced by LLMs or the economy is about to collapse under the weight of the LLM bubble. Not particularly reassuring. I realize there’s no perfect time to have kids and tons of people make it work, but as a couple who have always been in the “maybe” camp, inaction feels like the only thing a logical person would choose, year after year after year.

We don’t have many years left where it’s actually viable, and frankly I can’t imagine it’s going to change.

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[–] PonyOfWar@pawb.social 54 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Nowadays, it's expected and often necessary for both people in a relationship to work full-time and have a career if they want to maintain a decent living standard. No time or money for having kids.

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[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 25 points 1 week ago (4 children)

It will differ by country but I've seen some poll from Poland recently:

For those few that don't speak polish:

  1. I don't need kids (37%)
  2. I can't afford it (20%)
  3. I'm worried about wars and instability (14%)
  4. Poorly working healthcare system (13%)
  5. I don't have the right partner
  6. I'm worried about unemployment
  7. Not enough support form the government
  8. Being a parent is too hard
  9. I'm worried about climate change
  10. Other (20%)
  11. I don't know (14%)
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[–] 9point6@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Late stage capitalism.

When it is already hard to save up and buy a house before it's too late for you and your partner to be capable of conceiving, is it any surprise?

I know plenty of people who would have a kid but don't because they simply can't afford to

[–] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 21 points 1 week ago

Economic.

Where it takes a young couple 80 hours of paid labor per week just to maintain a lower-middle class lifestyle, kids become an unaffordable luxury in a traditional family. When 40 hours of paid labor can comfortably support a family, that couple starts having kids.

UBI corrects the problem in multiple ways. It meets the basic needs of the family, so that their own income is immediately gainful.

UBI removes "starvation" as a motivation for labor. A drowning man will drag his wife, kids, and even his rescuers underwater with him, just for one more breath of air in his lungs. The desperate laborer will accept whatever pittance he is offered for his time, because that pittance is better than foregoing medical coverage, or the roof over his head, or enough food. In accepting that pittance, this desperate worker establishes the market value of labor, and drags down the compensation of everyone around him. A UBI relieves the majority of his desperation, and frees him to walk away from exploitative employers. That skinflint employer is forced to either offer a reasonable wage, or go out of business.

A UBI is a "Citizenship Dividend" - a payment for the use of Democratically-derived political powers. It is payment for the individual's (compulsory) investment in his or her government, allowing that government to provide services to and collect taxes and fees from non-person, corporate entities on our behalf.

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