Ask Lemmy

In U.S. public schools? How to read.

How to be kind.

In my case social skills. I was the typical nerd. About 10 years after I finished school I figured out I could learn to get along better with people just like I learnt how to do complicated maths.

@gigastasio do you really need to send your child to school ?

More for people entering adulthood, but one thing school life never taught me was how to deal with uncertainty and structurelessness. How to keep moving when you don't know where you're going.

How life works in general, things that you're required to do or expected to understand as an adult. For example, different types of bank accounts, credit card fees, how credit scores work and what they're used for, how government and elections work and how these impact people's actual lives (beyond just submitting your vote and naming the branches of government), how to read a food label and why they should (this might get a small section in health class), how health insurance works, etc.

Basically just how our society is structured and what that means for the individual.

Go for the jugular

Consent

Perhaps ethics

Also help them figure out what the fuck is wrong with them before it destroys their life.

Laws are threats made by the dominant socioeconomic-ethnic group in a given nation. It’s just the promise of violence that’s enacted and the police are basically an occupying army.

How to protect your mate from a bear.

Git

If anyone is doing something that you don't like, or that hurts, you yell as loud as you can in your big girl/boy voice "stop that I don't like that"

A more well rounded perspective of safe sex.

For instance:

• An overview of sex toys, and how to use them safely. This might be controversial, especially if I mention that if I had a teenage daughter, I would purchase for her a small, non vibrating dildo (which I would place in a discreet place alongside condoms and lube). My reasoning is that I know from experience that teenage girls can be just as dumb and horny as teenage boys, and I'd rather my daughter be able to explore her body safely than to use unsafe things such as hairbrush handles and marker pens.

• More discussion on the pleasure aspect of sex. For instance, how many women require clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, either through manual stimulation or a vibrator. I wouldn't supply a vibrator, but I would mention this in order to emphasise that each person is different in what they prefer, and that a good sexual partner is someone who helps you to explore that.

• I would briefly mention anal sex, if only because it's quite prominent in porn nowadays, and porn cuts out the extensive prep required, such as lubricant and gradually working up to things. I'd mostly emphasise the need for lubricant/prep, and that STDs are transmitted more easily through anal sex, so condoms are essential. One of the other things I'd like to imply (or state outright, even) is that straight men can enjoy being the receptive partner for anal sex, and this doesn't reflect on their sexuality.

• When I was a teenager, one of the most useful things I stumbled across online was a gallery of people's genitals in a non sexual context. In particular, I was astounded at the diversity in how vulvas look. I'd find a link to something like that.

This is an illustrative list, not exhaustive. It's a moot point as I don't intend to have kids anyway (and I'm even on the waiting list to be permanently sterilised). However, I think that my own early sexual experiences would have been a lot safer if I had been provided this kind of information

US history of subjugation of brown people

Hide your work and hide it's effects. Anything others can see is a weakness. Government can only tax you on what you earn officially, only things you show can be stolen etc. If you are having a good time it is in your best interest than nobody, except people you are having this good time with, know about it.

Food, in a lot of places.

...oh, you meant things they won't learn in school? My mistake.