Arkouda

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[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 9 points 4 months ago (10 children)

Thanks for providing a great reason to leave this community.

The OP has been hostile in the comments, and in their OP, violating Rule 1, and Rule 5.

Do better.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 33 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I still find music the old school way, either through people I know recommending it or hearing it randomly in my travels.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I wasn't able to find any 3rd party sources verifying this.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 28 points 4 months ago

This is fucking terrifying.

We need to deal with these people yesterday.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 16 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (3 children)

I say this with the express purpose to "Knock some sense into you", and in no way intend this to be offensive to you:

You are not ready for a relationship. That is clear from your behavior, and emotional state. You need help if you have reached this point in life, and have no understanding that you aren't the center of the universe. This is clear because you "allow" yourself to disconnect from them when you need time, and lose it when they have time with others.

This is an incredibly toxic way of being, and you should not "work on yourself" in the course of a relationship knowing how unstable your emotions are, and how immature your thinking process' are.

All of that to say:

  • Yes, you should prioritize being alone right now. Not isolated, but single. Have friends, don't pursue romantic relationships.

  • Find hobbies you enjoy and get good at them. Read books. Make yourself a person who you like to be around.

  • Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. This is important. Ask for help dealing with these emotions and thoughts. If no one in your life can do it, seek a counselor. They can help you gain the skills needed to deal with your thoughts and emotions.

When you are done working on yourself, and you are able to be comfortable being alone, then you can start thinking about romantic relationships.

Right now this situation is not good for you or her, and it is best to hit the brakes and get yourself together first.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 2 points 4 months ago

I don't honestly believe it is possible to ever truly "know yourself", so I would say all traits are unknowable.

The reason I say this is because one doesn't ever know how they will react in any given situation until it happens. One can train, one can prepare, but until they are in an exact situation with exact circumstances one cannot declare with certainty what they will do.

I do not believe in free will as well, so that is another point against "knowing yourself" for me as all "you" are is an observer to the experiences that aren't controllable in the first place.

That is not to say that one cannot predict with some accuracy how they will behave, but with so many unknown factors involved with simply existing (like the fact that we forget things that happened and remember things that didn't; Can be impacted by unknown emotional states; etc), I do not believe anyone can be certain of themselves even with detailed notes and 3rd party help.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 12 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Nuclear weapons are the single biggest mistake humanity has ever made next to the Industrial revolution.

We still fight horribly bloody wars even with the threat of nuclear annihilation. It is obvious that nuclear weapons do nothing but make everything worse, and the materials used to create them would be better used for energy generation.

If we were smart we would decommission every weapon on the planet and ensure no group or person can make another one, and put the materials to a better use.

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca -1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I am guessing they are referring to the education programs under UNRWA that allegedly were unaltered and issued by the Palestinian Authority which promoted and instilled hate of Israelis.

If anyone is interested in the details surrounding that entire situation.

https://www.unrwa.org/unrwa-claims-versus-facts-2025

[–] Arkouda@lemmy.ca 7 points 4 months ago

That sounds like a pain for growing conditions.

I use planters because I live in an apartment, but my mother in law uses those little kids pools full of soil to get around not having good soil to grow in. The pools seem to work really well, and she even customized how each soil can drain for different crops and flowers by cutting drain holes. I think she is also trying to grow rice in one of them that is more flooded. haha

I was curious and looked it up, English Lavender doesn't really like to grow in Florida either because of the heat and humidity. But Spanish, French, Goodwin Creek grey and Phenominal lavender all grow well there. Which is now a fact I know. haha

Citronella is a pretty good alternative! I used to use the candles specifically for mosquitoes. The only problem I had with it is it also keeps other things away I don't want to avoid like bees and such.

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