No, you!
It runs quite well actually. I run it on a single board computer and haven't had any issues apart from one time when a bug caused message delays and I had to downgrade for a little while until the next release.
There's already a proxy involved. My actual residential IP is not public. The traffic itself is also encrypted end to end so the VPS provider never actually gets to see plaintext traffic.
I don't run any of my services on a VPS for privacy reasons. They all run on my own hardware completely under my control and supervision. I also don't currently have the money to pay for the extremely powerful VPS(es) I'd need to run all my services. I have over 50 running.
It's dendrite, but yeah, I've been doing it for years
Happy birthday!! May all your weeks be nice!