FineCoatMummy

There are a LOT of shady VPN companies around, but Mullvad is one I do trust. They also do indy audits of their service. And they support standards like wireguard. I'd probably trust Proton's VPN too. But VERY few others!

As long as we're doing shoutouts... I've had good luck with Racknerd when I wanted a VPS. They have cheap plans. Like if you just want one for light selfhosting, for your friends and family. Good web portal. The one time I needed service, they were prompt and helpful. Selfhosting shit helps me avoid big tech surveilance.

One prob all social media eventually has... prob lemmy too, just a matter of time... is astroturfing is getting hard to tell from genuine human experiences. Some shady VPN co's do real heavy astroturfing. I hate this because it poisons the well. It erodes the digital commons. Not accusing Mullvad here - but there are lots of others who do. So it pays to be mindful.

(from USA)

Last time I used a clinic (stitches, not an overnight stay), they wanted to know who I am. But I did not have to show ID. It makes sense, they need to know who I am. They keep track of medications and things. It's been also true for routine vaccinations. They ask my name and age when I check in. And they want insurance info ofc. But never asked for an ID.

I have to show an ID to buy alcohol. But they do not copy or record it so I do not mind. The clerk simply looks at it to verify my age. Takes like 3 seconds. No copy is made. I'm cool with it.

I have to show ID to open a bank account. Two forms! And they do record it! That did not used to be true here. But now it is, KYC laws.

I have never used any form of face ID. Well not on purpose! Some stores may use FR outside my control. I've never used FR with a phone, I mean.

even if they did someone will fork and remove them

Ayup, hopefully. But there's a cultural aspect to that IMO. For that to work, we need enough people invested in doing that. Which can be hard and ongoing work! Say I fork an app. Unless I want to "hostile take over" the whole devel, now I've got to keep rolling in updates. Sometimes those can interact with the changes I made in my fork and automated merges don't handle it. It can be thankless work.

We're lucky at the mo, with OSS. It's a tech heavy crowd. That helps a LOT to keep the culture from enshittifying. There's a lot of good faith volunteering around. But that's a fragile thing.

The lying the app did in their priv policy is shitty behavior. But not unusual behavior.

The phone app ecosystem is a hot mess of treachery.

Europe won’t save us.

I agree. But that wasn't what I meant. I meant it in the other direction. That we may slowly get forced into more and more requirements to give a real world identity, to use the internet. Some nations are moving that way. Even if they aren't all the way there yet, they would love to.

Maybe it'll never get that far, I don't know. I agree big tech companies are more powerful now than ever. It's a huge damn problem.

I worry that if we get lots of diff jurisdictions with diff laws, it may be easiest for an OS to comply iwth the most strict of them.

Lax ones don't require age verification, but also don't forbid it. Strict ones require it. You can comply with both at once.

Maybe doesn't matter if you can easily bypass the age check. Which is true at the present time. But things like this, they often slip-slope into more KYC style of hard to get around. All it takes is a horrible event all over the headlines. If it "could have been stopped" with stricter measures, they'll come. Once you have a hammer, all problems are nails.

I pay for Proton because I'm not tryin to protect myself from Proton.

I think I could pay with a masked CC if I want. But I don't bother. That isn't part of my threat model. It might be for others, tho.

I've heard of parents being successful at it before. But it took a little group of them. They got together and approach their kids school. They used a positive approach. Not confrontational. More like we have these privacy concerns. But we want to work together with the school on them.

I lost the link now, it was years ago. But they were successful in getting alternatives for the worst "ed-tech" spywares.

is absolutely dystopian

Esp because they could already use, you know... a spike strip!

It feels kinda like targeted v dragnet surviilance debate. Targeted feels OK if you get a warrant from a judge, use the legal procedures. But dragnet makes for a dystopia. Similar here. I don't want a global ability for some centralized db to flip a bit and stop any body's car across the world. Or, worst case, hacked and stops EVERYBODYs car at once.

That's my exp too. Esp with the endless pop-overs like "We share your data with our 5 million partners! Unless you dig through 45 pages of opt out checkmarks, b/c fuck you". 95% of the time, disallow JS bypasses those.

Also tho, some important sites flat don't work with js disabled. I hate that. I get it. There are some things where js is necessary. But it's like 2% good things plus 98% fuckery.

Wow. I wonder how many vulns like this are unknown outside of identity broker co's and gov intel orgs. Seems like new ones discovered hella lot.

Turning the WWW into an app platform was a mistake. JS allows so much fuckery.

it’s really no wonder society is as polarized: it seems to be by design.

For sure. And not in a conspiracy-theory kind of way! Facebook ex-employees testified to the US Congress, said exactly that. FB amplify the most divisive content on purpose. That is the most powerful emotion, to make people engage. Other employee whistleblowers talked to the WSJ about "The Outrage Algorithm". And there's a whole book, "The Chaos Machine" about that.

Polarization drives maximum engagement. Right up until society rips itself apart. And then it's too late.