FriendOfDeSoto

joined 2 years ago

You should add your age for context. You're either a normal adolescent/young adult figuring shit out like all of us have to. Or you can consider yourself part of the spectrum, maybe in aceflux. You can do that at any age to be fair. I would just wait until maybe ~25 before you make your own identity ruling here. And keep in mind stuff changes over time still even after you've reached that age, maybe just at a slower pace.

In the end, you do you. I would recommend honesty with your partners. They could be pretty pissed when they find out by accident that you've been more like holding your proverbial nose to enable intercourse.

Having info on the heliocentric solar system could land you in a dungeon or worse back in the day.

This is too simplistic. I know conservative voters who didn't vote for 47, many not even for 45. Conservative is a value set and the Venn diagram of that with MAGA is far from a perfect overlap. If you replace "conservatives" with "47's cult-like followers" I would come closer to agreeing with your take. I do take issue with "everyone else" though. I think that doesn't hit the mark either. I think there is more purple between this red team/blue team thinking than there are both extremes of this scale added together. Stop digging deeper trenches. And don't shoot your political opponents.

Lol I read that as "first responders or 911" as in nine one one. I would say the addition of a / might have clarified it. But that doesn't diminish my failure at reading comprehension.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 3 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I'm fairly confident that you are generalizing this a bit and that there are police and fire fighting departments on this planet that employ nurses. In general though, first responders who get injured end up in the same system than the people they save and need medical attention: hospitals. If you are in need of nurse aftercare, you are probably off on sick leave - so what would the nurse actually do? Especially in the smaller bf-nowhere operations, I don't see how you could justify the cost. Plus, most firehouses have paramedics already. They're not the same as a nurse but bring a lot of similar skills.

If we are honest with ourselves, we all have biases that end in -phobia. They are on a siding scale and get more pronounced in certain situations. The assholes in society don't gaf about their biases and don't care if they say or do hurtful things as a result. The more enlightened people know about their lizard brain biases and try their best not to act on them.

Maybe you are a bit homophobic. But you are aware of your biases and you can make sure you don't act on them in a way that is hurtful to other people. Knowing is half the battle. So don't beat yourself up over it. From what I've been reading in your post you are doing it right.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There is no simple answer to this. It's like at least three factors interacting. How much empathy do you feel towards the other person? How close is your relationship on the scale of strangers bumping into each other on the street to best friends forever? How big an issue has any of this been objectively (or as close as you can get there)? So that's three sliding scales to adjust to get an outcome. The closer a relationship is, the harder this can be because there is history and people (I'm including myself in this) can be very petty.

Just judging by the hints you dropped you should probably reconsider your approach to your coworkers. And I don't mean you need to be submissively apologetic all the time and share everything from your private life, even your hemorrhoid problems, with the crew. You'll probably make your life easier just on a human level plus improve odds of promotion if you do more of that, even if it feels more line cosplay to you. I share your "grow the eff up"/no bullshit stance but that only works in a group of like minded people.

I think it's the wrong label, anti-intellectualusm. Sense of reality might do it more justice. I think there are two factors at play. 1) how much does higher education cost you? Does it put you in debt you'll be lucky to have paid off before you retire? Have other people gotten degrees and still ended up unemployed? Why get majorly in debt to get no job in the end? That's more a North American specific problem. I'm in Asia and I haven't heard anybody shit talking college degrees in favor of the trades. 2) We need plumbers and carpenters and welders and whatnot. And due to declining birth rates in many places and the fact that the numerous birth years of the boomers are retiring and will continue to retire in the short term, we are running out of sparkies, masons, and HVACs. So if you had to career advise people today, you'd be silly not to bring up a profession with near certainty of getting a job once you're trained up.

Shitty work environments exist in more high brow professions as well.

People are mad. There are mad people on both sides.

Consumers can feel very empowered by a few hundred followers and one bad experience. And that translates more into a diss track, embelished and dramatized, than an honest review. Entrepreneurs justifiably fear this because this can hurt their businesses significantly. So they fight back with this legal retcon attempt. It's most likely not enforceable - and they probably know that too. If they wouldn't mind you speaking positively about you online, they cannot keep the negative stuff out either (as long as it is based in fact, libel is a different story). This little boiler plate serves only to give pause to the consumer. It plants a seed of restraint in their minds (if they actually read it).

Humans are a complicated species.

That was only option 2.

[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

You need to try for yourself. Or consult a therapist who knows you well enough. Us idiots on the internet cannot look inside your head.

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