Kichae

joined 2 years ago
[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 months ago

Bingo.

Every business mogual loves a fascist oligarchy until they discover they're on the outside.

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 21 points 5 months ago (1 children)

they devolved into being part of the establishment.

I like how they think voting for people who most benefit from the system and who the system is made for and modelled after was never the mistake. Those people just weren't strong enpugh, somehow, to be corrupted by that system.

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Ignoring the world definitely makes you good global citizens and not problems to work around. Good job. Way to go.

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 months ago

Lesbian, Glesbian, Blesbian, Tlesbian, Plesbian

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 44 points 6 months ago (1 children)

"They hated who I hated! I didn't think they'd hate me, too!"

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 19 points 6 months ago (1 children)

"We're the front page of the Internet!"

"No, not like that..."

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 19 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Ok, but hear me out. Have you seen most Python code?

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 8 points 6 months ago

My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

This is the reason why. Your ex has managed to control the narrative and has manipulated the social atmosphere to ice you out. Emotional abusers are often very good at this. They mamipulate everyone around them.

And they are really good at choosing their abuse victims. They know who they can love bomb, who they can isolate, and who will keep their mouth shut.

I have been there. Watched people I thought were friends just evaporate, choosing their relationship with my ex over me. Realizing they were never my friends, they were "ours", and ij the end they stuck by her, the more openly social and boistrous one.

It's taken a long time, and many different therapists, but I've come to accept my experiences as abuse, as not my fault, and... sometimes... that I am worthy of love, friendship, and happiness.

I have found the books The Body Keeps the Score and Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (available as audio books), as well as videos on toxic shame and attachment by Heidi Prieb, very helpful.

I know the words feel hollow, because they feel so far the opposite of true, but you are not alone. Many others have been through what you've endured, and have made it out the other side. There are people out there who will, one day, be so very glad to have you in their lives.

Some day, when you're ready -- and much earlier than I did, I implore you -- you should join some activity groups. Take up a recreational sport, join a gaming group, take group acting lessons, join a choir... anything that is a) casual and b) a group activity. Bonus points if it's something you always enjoyed, buy your ex tried to excise from your life. This will help you rebuild your social network, and let you reconnect with yourself.

Physical activity and a healthy diet is also important here. It may be the last thing you want to do, but it actively helps fight all of your worst psychic injuries. Not only is it physiologically good for you, it's psychologicallly good for you. You know that it's good for you; your brain knows it. Doing healthy things means choosing to care about yourself. You need to actively choose yourself at every step of the way. It trains your mind to see yourself as worthy of care.

Oh, and ritually burn things that were hers, or that were shared and tied to your relationship. You don't need them. You don't need her. You're going to be better off without her.

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 16 points 6 months ago

They learning what it means to only care about the "Me" in America.

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 18 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

JXL is my favourite squadron.

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 44 points 7 months ago (1 children)

But I am home at 1pm, and they still didn't actually deliver the package!

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

The reasons why the wealthy like liberalisation matters, though. The reasom the wralthy want more wealth matters.

Money is power. The wealthy are competing to have the most power. Eventually, that turns to taking control of the state. So, the wealthy will back free trade and deregulation right up until they, personally, are in a position to attempt a coup. After that, regulation and trade barriers work for the particular rich folk who have taken control over the state.

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