Remy

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[–] Remy@lemmy.today 3 points 8 hours ago

It looks like most of these are not therapy services

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 5 points 11 hours ago

I prefer Fedora over Ubuntu because they are more up to date and put Flatpak over Snap.

But the real reason I originally switched was that the Ubuntu installer crashed 5 times in a row and then I tried Fedora and liked it

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 4 points 12 hours ago

It don't have to be an app, I ask for online therapy in general

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Remy@lemmy.today 2 points 12 hours ago

Yes, it would be much for fun in the long run. But for some reason this doesn't change my behavior and I hate my self for this

 

I really think that I need therapy and my family also think so and tells me this in regular intervals.

But there are two main blockers with getting therapy:

  • Extreme long waiting list's, estimated waiting times of 1-3 years
  • I am so bad at doing stuff on time / arriving at appointment's, that this will fail any therapy where I have to arrive physically

I am thinking about getting online therapy, on a platform like for example BetterHelp, but I always hear bad things about these platforms.

Do anyone here as experience with such platforms? Do they keep the conversations private or sell them?

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 2 points 20 hours ago

I would like to have a god one day, but as long as I can't even take care of my self, I don't want a pet to be dependent on me taking care of it.

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 1 points 20 hours ago

"Do you have anyone you can be accountable to? Sibling, friend, partner, etc that you trust? " I am living with my parents, and I am very ashamed things like my sleeping habits and always beeing late. But this doesn't seam to help

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 1 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

I DO NOT want to live like this. The statement is only describing that the solution is not to only do things that are more fun

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 1 points 20 hours ago

I remember from the time when I have last taken medication, that the effects is usually starting when tacking the pill in the beggining of the day, and then wear down at the end. But my problem is my biggest problem a during the end of the day.

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

I guess many of us can learn more from Minecraft then from school. Minecraft teached me basic principles of economy and bussines, when I was playing on server's that had a big economy

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

When I can’t get off my phone, I switch the display from colour to greyscale, and about 15 minutes later it’s much easier to put the device down. NB make a shortcut so that it’s easy to change the colours without leaving the app you’re in.

I enabled this has an automated feature, but most of the time, I turn it off manually without thinking much about it

If an alarm is really important, I put the alarm clock on the other side of the room. Close enough that I can’t ignore it but far enough that I have to stand up and walk over to switch it off.

This could work if I put the alarm in a difficult to reach position, so I realy need to stop the current thing to reach it, and then it may be easier to start the next thing?

I combine activities to keep my brain sufficiently stimulated e.g. listen to a podcast or music while doing something repetitive. So when task switching, my 1st step is fun, deciding what I want to listen to.

I think listening to music could be a good task switcher, especially if the music is motivating

I try to avoid digital content that I identify as being addictive or very difficult to break out of. Natasha Dow Schüll defines what she calls the “ludic loop”, which is an activity that is solitary, doesn’t include natural breaks, doesn’t have a definite end, and has random rewards.

This definition seems to match on almost all digital activities?

[–] Remy@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I don't think this is always possible. Researching something in the internet or playing a video game, will probably always be more interesting then to some necessary daily routines

 

Hello, I have a big problem that interferes with every aspect of my life. And I want to ask you all if you experience this too and/or you have any ideas on how to improve this behavior?

The Problem

When I do anything interesting, or anything that just isn't completely boring, I can't stop when it's time to stop and start the doing the next thing. I always think, something like "Just five minutes more" and then I sometimes finish hours later than I had planned. This breaks all time-sensitive plans and also causes me to go to sleep far too late.

I don't think that its simple procrastination, because what I feel when I do it, is not about not wanting to start the next thing, but about not wanting to stop the current thing.

List of things I already do / have already tried

  • Setting up alarms that remind me that I need to stop doing the current thing and start doing the next thing
  • Creating schedules
  • Configuring the Wifi Router to turn of at certain times: This is very effective (when I have taken out my SIM card before), but its only helping with cutting the wifi at the end of the day for bedtime, not other time sensitive tasks that are necessary to even enable me to sleep on time (like eating dinner early enough)
  • Buffer time: Most of the time I can't get my self to view the buffer deadline as the actual deadline
  • Reading books about habits: I read some books about habits, but these books are mostly about starting an activity, or don't starting an activity at all, but I need to do certain things, and stop doing them on time.
  • This list is probably incomplete
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