A relationship is more than just a promise or commitment. A relationship is a chance for both participants to grow and challenge each other, while also supporting each other. It also makes your domestic life easier, as each partner only does have the work (in a slightly larger quantity). Relationships are not transactional. Each person gives when they have capacity, and each person receives when they don’t. Strengths and weaknesses cancel out and both are better off together.
It sounds like you’re not currently interested in a relationship. Probably best to be up front about that with your candidates.
I’m a real beginner with this stuff and I read through the install scripts before running them. But it wasn’t for security, I just wanted to see if I could learn some tips since I had already struggled to do it manually.