noretus

I'm just holding out minor hope that people finally get with the program and realize the value of reputable news organizations and plain old grapevine again. Leave internet for nerds.

Here's the money shot: https://youtu.be/LZ259Jx8MQY?t=1240

I wish they had used a better mic but that was like giving my soul a really good scratch.

Alto's Adventure. One of those simple is powerful games. Though it can get really frustrating as there definitely are situations where the game just decides that you're done.

I personally hold a Consciousness-Only View, something like nondual Buddhism, and would say that your questions are on the right track but you're understandably trying to reconcile them with the consensus opinion of a materialistic world. Which leads to a nihilistic "this is all a simulation" line of thinking that still runs into the wall of duality - you're still putting an external force out there, acting upon you. As long as you believe that there are goal posts, you can move them indefinitely. It's a simulation within a simulation within a simulation and depending on your inclination, you can put a really depressing spin on it ("I'm being tormented").

But if you aren't actually experiencing life from a nondual angle (as you don't seem to be), the philosophy doesn't mean much. And to experience life with the freedom that comes from not experiencing yourself to be only the things you think you are takes a lot of practice - meditation etc. with a secure and healthy community around you. Unless you get lucky.

Up to you what you want to do with this all though. I only saw the little glimpse of your life that you divulged in the comments and as such I'd say, focus on what is most immediate to you. Get food. Take care of your body. Try to find a real-life community. Occasionally poke at your thoughts about what you VALUE and drill down - do you value the thing you said or do you value what you believe you will get with the thing you said? Make choices in life that help you live more according to your values. Stop spending excessive amounts of time online, especially if all the stories cause you anxiety.

Or you can just join a Buddhist monastery or something. You'll be taken care of and your identity as a second child or an immigrant inherently doesn't matter, but of course you'll be giving up a lot.

If there is ever any conceivable way to act as if one has the morally higher ground, 99.9% of people will use it with an Ad Hominem attack to avoid dealing with the actual point of an argument. ESPECIALLY on the internet. No matter what political, academic or just plain nerdy configuration of people you have, no matter what topic they are discussing. If anyone ever catches even the faintest whiff of a position that they think is morally inferior, they will unfailingly disregard any logic, context and relating in favor of demonizing the opponent. Because there is no sugar sweeter to the human mind than thinking themselves morally superior.

Look into Non-violent Communication https://www.cnvc.org/

And also this https://pastebin.com/ZHhS044M

Both require very, very stern honesty with oneself and understanding the difference between FEELINGS and NARRATIVES about feelings. You both need to commit to this, and NOT police each other - when one of you sees the other fail, it's on them to translate, not to guilt trip.

(and yes, learning this will initially lead to very stiff and awkward speech, you'll get over it)

Can you prove that memory is a reliable way to determine reality without referencing memory?

Yeah, it's cool. I'm thinking I might make a page there. Maybe my blog. Or maybe a Tiddlywiki for some pet projects.

I love these pages. I miss the early 2000 internet.

I mean the reason you have to ask is kind of... why

We're in mostly a capitalistic world. Capitalism makes utilitarianism seem easy since it becomes easy to assign a "value" to everything. That kind of thinking quickly gets you to naive cynicism. We're conditioned to think certain things are more valuable than others - mental wellbeing and community have been steadily devalued.

There's a saying "behind every cynic there's a disappointed idealist". We're in a world where a lot of people grew up in a time of amazing technological advancement, but have been bitterly disappointed by how the world is today. These people are now getting to that age where they may have been working the same job for a while (if they got lucky with job security) and they just want to get the job done and not exert any more effort than necessary (since by their experience, it doesn't "pay off").

Let them be them, you do your thing. They don't owe you any kind of behavior really, though it would be expected and polite of them to keep things at professional level of course. You don't owe them either so you don't have to let them bring you down. Don't take it personally though because it really, really isn't.

Obvs just my view. If you really want to know, you can try to just ask what they value and if you can work in a way that aligns with that while not disregarding your own values.

They can go to the cops. I get this may not seem ideal to them if they are in fact doing something illegal. And again: giving money to beggars encourages begging -> more human trafficking. It's a very, very direct causation. I rather not get into that.