shneancy

i'm european though

i'm 3.5

it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don't want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it's that?

if i were you i'd try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don't know the whole context of your relationship so i don't know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

green - keep going i like this

yellow - approaching my limit let's pause

red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

at any point during play you can then ask them "colour?" and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it's too much. (this also goes the other way! don't be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the "stop" when they actually want you to keep going.

bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it's systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that

may i introduce you to - BDSM. no need to imagine a scene when it's happening! :)

any and all UI changes will make people angry

steam has had so few of them compared to idk youtube that, imo it's fine even if it's kinda pointless

but it feels to me like Aziraphael would have a panic attack of Crowley started bratting to him. i couldddd see a soft dom potential but a fragile one

no way, Aziraphale is definitely the bottom, he wouldn't be able to top to save the world (except that one time when he terrified everyone in hell)

I'd like to purchase some PORNOGRAPHY :)

do you think workers got rights by asking nicely?

if factories didn't get set on fire with the owner inside people would still be breaking their backs working 16h a day in conditions that shorten their lives by a year every month spent working, every day going deeper in dept to the company store. Oh and they asked for better conditions, they protested, they demanded, they went on strikes, but there was no way out.

violance isn't the answer - violance is what happens when you take away someon's hope. And this is not a new relevation:

Sun Tzu said 'When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard'

because a desperate, hopeless foe will fight to the death

by that i mean - that an emotional reaction doesn't make something art

i experience an emotional reaction when i step in shit too