underreacting

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[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 2 points 3 months ago

I'm not sure I understand the question (devoid of good morals, full of bad morals / anti-moral, or not touching on morals at all of that's even possible?)...

but Drawn Together might be the answer.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 1 points 3 months ago

I have boxes of stuff from three moves ago, I finally unpacked them. Now I have two or three of almost every kitchen utensil. I'll sort them out into a box for getting rid of, soon... I suspect the "soon" will take a long time, and that the discard-box might just become a repeat of the prior cycle.

I need more rooms to store my trash in.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Even though I've seen plenty of squirrels before I still get excited when I see one, and seeing so many at once is fascinating every time.

I snapped a pick of one sitting upright holding a big nut in his tiny hands, and only after showing multiple people "this cute squirrel with his nut", did I notice that he was proudly displaying a prominent ballsack, at least a third of this fuckers visible body was just...his nuts.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

If you've got a small fortune to spend you could try those small motorcycles, I think they're called motorcross? Might be the same as dirtbikes if those are motorized? I've note tried it myself (see the point about the small fortune) but sitting, standing, squatting, steering and adrenaline, seems like the intensity can be adjusted depending on speed and track.

Parasailing, skydiving and base jumping seems adrenaline inducing af but maybe not too physically demanding?

SUP on a calm lake isn't particularly strenuous, but really rough if the wind or water flows against you. Put on a life jacket and learn to relax and lightly steering yourself to float to shore if you can't breathe enough to swim, should you fall off where you cant get back up.

Racing around with a motor boat is easy, as long as it turns on by the press of a button (not pull-chord-to-start) and doesn't break down so you have to row back. Always bring a phone in a water safe bag strapped to yourself, and use a life vest at all times, and let people know where you'll be and when they should expect you back.

Yoga can be super chill, or super demanding. There are plenty free tutorials online and you don't need equipment.

Maybe learning an instrument (though not brass) and playing in a band would scratch the same itch as doing a team sport?

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Not really... I got rejected once after an interview, and I have a pretty good idea why so didn't feel the need to ask (I was too upfront about being easily burned out. Have since worked on that, and am now upfront about being easily burned out but having the tools to prevent it).

I don't ask when I get rejected before ever speaking to a real person. I have asked during exit interviews and 1-on-1 with boss or managers, they told me quite relevant feedback for work but nothing for the application process, aside from being personable and to warn them before giving out their details as reference so they can expect the call.

If you get filtered out early in the application process there's very little chance they remember your application, if there even is someone checking that mailbox. It probably wasn't even a person reading your application, so there's no one to give you feedback on it.

If you've been to an interview and then been rejected you can contact them and ask why, or rather what you could improve and work on for future applications and interviews. After an interview you have the contact info of someone you've met, so that person will for sure get your message, and will remember you and have an idea of why you weren't picked to move on.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 2 points 4 months ago

I don't know if the same people are involved in this one, but I love the movie version of the Martian - I think it's a very faithful adaptation, with acceptable changes for the medium. Slightly more grandiose and optimistic ending, possibly to be palatable to a wide audience, but nothing that ruined the experience.

If it's even close to that balance of good adaptation and good movie, it will absolutely be worth watching.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 4 points 4 months ago

My grandma, who never let anyone tell her how to live and was happiest alone in her cottage, who would yell at us to get out and dig for potatoes when she felt crowded and then hose us down and give us a lollipop before letting us back in.

An aunt, who rode a gigant bike and let me sit on the warm tank as it cooled, who'd be gone for months then reappear just as quick and would swing me around for fun, taught me to make a handstand and always let me stand on her shoulders to pick cherries.

My mom, who was busy all the time putting food on the table but would still read to each of us every night.

Fictional: Matilda, who had a need to read that was strong enough to turn magical; Belle, who was secure in herself even though it made her lonely and whispered about (also books as escape!); Ariel, who stood up to her father and ran away rather than accept being threatened for being herself.

I don't think I had a good male role model. It did fuck me up for a long time, but I guess the bad ones did that damage more than the absence of good ones.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 5 points 4 months ago

I see, thank you

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 1 points 4 months ago

Yeah, easier to get both angry and desolate in the evenings/nights. Also far more likely to give in to temptations, like trash food, candy, alcohol...

After a long day of being in control of oneself and making good choices, that ability gets worn out. It's worse if I've had to face a lot of stress or (mentally) say no to a lot of temptations or make a lot of decisions. At the end of the day I have no more "no"s to give myself.

It also gets markedly worse if I haven't slept, eaten, drank, been outside or taken sufficient breaks that day.

There's also the hormonal aspect, where hormones fluctuate on a daily cycle, which I think might be the reason I crash and want a nap in the afternoon, and get hungry around 23 regardless of if I just ate or not, and is the most focused and calm before noon.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I hope he incorporated that into his set to use if the joke doesn't get a reaction, stuff like that would definitely save a flat joke for me.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Could you explain this? I don't know if it's an translation error or local figure of speech where lips and assholes means something else than body parts, or if I need to know what a can of Vienna sausages is to get the joke.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Well.. YOU could read papers. YOU could look up from your phone and notice the flyers.

The possibilities are there. There are other ways to get info about local events than from fb. You don't have to wait for everyone else to pick up a paper.

Ps. I have plenty of friends and involvement, which most of my current social circle I gathered after moving alone to a new city, without using social media. I lost a lot of acquaintances by leaving fb, but none that I actually miss. My friends are the ones I put effort into keeping in touch with.

People exist offline. We've done so for millennia, and still do.

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