underreacting

I have a local newspaper subscription that often have articles/info and/or ads for local shows and festivals - one can even go to the library to read it every day for free if paying isn't in one's budget (but I like paying for it, it's a lot of fluff but sometimes they dig up something about how my city is being managed or mismanaged, and they have shone a light on a few desperately needed changes in local government).

I also know most venues in the area that host small bands and can check their website or get their newsletter through email.

There's also flyers being taped up at the store, library and on maintenance boxes and poles around town for current events and activities (that's how I found my knitting club!).

There are probably ticket vendors where you can flag certain bands or venues or maybe genres and get an email when something is booked in your area.

Just walking my city, talking to people, looking in shops and venues, and being present outside I get a ton of info about local events. I don't miss FB. I don't need a global mega-site to tell me what's happening outside my own door.

What does you child say about? Do they prefer the days with medication or without? A smaller dose might be a good middleway, but I would try to observe and ask about the childs experiences on multiple occasions, with and without meds. One day, with several factors that can contribute to their mood, doesn't really tell anything.

I don't really notice any effect of my medication, until I don't take it one day, then the difference is staggering. On it I still feel like my rather unmotivated, easily tired and overstimulated, hard-to-focus self. Off it, I'm worse on all of that, and so much more.

But I still don't feel medicated on my medicine the next day when I take it... Unless I skip my usual vitamin c-heavy breakfast, then I feel kinda strung out and even a bit twitchy.

Yes, and then a few linebreaks, a visible black line and then your actual signature visible...for the professionalism.

and i refuse to edit my spelling mistages, thats your problem now

If I was a braver person I would put this as my email signature at work and in life.

You could find any musical chant and make up your own repetitive movement, but such possibilities tend to overwhelm me, so these are the ones I got recommended to me, with links to Spotify and YouTube:

Touch your thumbs to your fingers in the order 1 2 3 4 4 3 2 1 1 2...and so on. Spotify - Sa Ta Na Ma

Place your hands crossed over your chest or one hand in chest and one on stomach, optional to sway back-and-forth, in a circle, or be still. Spotify - Ma

Move your hands up and down like this Video of the movement. Spotify - Sa Re Sa Sa

Of course you can also mix and match movements and chants as you please.

I've done them sitting on the floor with legs folded (you can put a pillow or folded blanked under the back half of your butt to get your knees a bit lower and feel steadier) with back if the hands resting on the legs, but they could be done standing, lying on your back, or on a chair as well. Keep your back straight and your head aligned so it's not tilted up or hanging down, and try to relax your arms (and face, or wherever you're usually tense). Turn the volume up and dare to chant loudly, feel the vibration of your voice in your chest.

EDIT: It might be in order with a warning here, as these practices often run parallel to cults, so be aware not to be sucked into spirituality that leans into glorifying or following one or a few strong leaders, or glorifying the practises over your own experience of the practice. The artist in two of the three above songs for example, was part of and has now left a Kundalini Yoga (KY) and Sikh cult.

Practice these things for your mental health and to calm and center yourself, but don't fall into the extreme of striving for any sort of purity or perfecting balance or perfect whatever. These practices should support you and help you feel better - you are not here to support them, and there is NO way in which you can fail them because they are your tools to use or not use at your own discretion.

I personally always skip or ignore the spiritual babble in any type of yoga because it makes me uncomfortable, and just do the fun parts. I also recommend removing these types of videos from your watch history or watch without logging in, otherwise your YouTube feed will be flooded with spiritual grifters videos.

I've gotten a few vocal/chanting meditations from my therapist, it's like a guided meditation but you chant a few words repetitively along with the recording and move a bit in rhythm to it. Stuff like make circling motions with your hands (on chest/stomach or in the air), or tap thumbs to each of your other four fingers, or sway your upper body while sitting still with closed eyes. Pick one movement and follow along with the recording.

It works so much better than being quiet and still. First time I actually finished a meditation and felt better afterwards instead of frustrated and bored. I still lost focus a few times but it felt more like a normal persons struggle to meditate than the impossible task it usually is.

I use the back of paid bills, opened envelopes, receipts etc to jot down notes, phone numbers, names, dates, or todos whenever I need it (usually during a phone call or while "cleaning" or reading emails on the bus).

I keep them visible on the table or in my bag until they have been completed and then thrown them away. Or until I lose them, and if nothing bad happens it probably wasn't that important to keep anyway. I try to transfer important notes to more durable versions, or gather todo-scraps or half-done lists into one clean list on a bigger scrap frequently.

I tried keeping notes on my phone or in a notebook, but it's never there when I need it plus I get overwhelmed with decisions regarding organising when so many different notes need to be gathered in just one place (how do I separate work from private from volunteer-notes? What do I do with things that will be outdated in a week? Do "buy soil or make own?" really belong in the same book as "breathe, you fool!" and "monday: bus 7:37, pack bag and pee 7:20"? And how do I find the notes I need to read often among the notes I only need to real when they are relevant?)... so I just never get a good system going.

I didn't really think about it. 28 felt like a milestone, because I had never planned to pass 27.

I partied way too hard on my 30th birthday though, and went into outpatient rehab a few months later, which was a turning point more than a milestone.

My thirties is when I finally grew into myself. I found my motivation, I got clean, I got diagnosed, I quit my job, finished high-school AND got a whole-ass degree, I moved to a different city and made way healthier friends, picked up a few new (and some really old) hobbies, and got a better relationship with my family.

My thirties was also painful as fuck. It took years before I found anything fun while sober. It took years to fully appreciate and embrace the quiet solid friendship of non-addicts and emotionally healthy people. I spent a lot of my thirties resigned to be bored for the rest of my life. I thought I might never truly enjoy things again after leaving the rush of emotional instability and constant dopamine fixes in my twenties...

But thinking back now I realise I finally am excited about things again. I look forward to stuff because it's fun and intriguing and challenging! I plan meetups and events, not just because I should or it's good for me, but because I want to! Thank you for this question, it really made me see how far I've come.

Some milestones are easy to see because they happen in an instant, like getting your first apartment or planning a vacation for the first time. Some milestones creep up on you and don't have a clear time, like noticing you're not wheezing when breathing after going uphill because you quit smoking or started walking to work or getting over a relationship ending. I don't think any milestones depend specifically on how many days it's been since you took your first breath. Milestones are individual, not chronological.

Everyone has time for the things they prioritize. And not much more.

FMC: Oxygen line malfunctions. Experts estimate 100% casualties. Mars ambassador to Earth: "No contact has been made as of now, investigation is underway".

The news will start shortening to FMC because "First Mars Colony" will be such a frequent headline.

I will not be involved myself, I just assume I'll live waaaay too long and die peacefully in a parachute accident that same day.

I would go to bed and just from the duvet rustling notice which cat comes running to be the little spoon.

Or I would sit with some yummy human food (like butter) and see which one will stop sniffing at it when I tell them to leave it, and instead go sit patiently at their own place waiting for their taste of the treat (cats aren't known for their patience, but we have developed this ritual together.. next step is utilising the same command when it's time for their food and see if I can stop that darn yowling).