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Avoiding eye contact is typically associated with autism, but there is a lot of overlap between autism and ADHD. See also AuDHD
I often get overwhelmed with too much information when making eye contact, and I'm rarely able to listen/understand while making eye contact. The easiest way for me to listen is to be looking anywhere else. This does not always go well in a corporate environment, and did not go well when my parents were trying to reprimand me.
Phone calls or online meetings instead of face-to-face meetings can help (if you can cope with that). Otherwise, learning when eye contact is socially necessary and when you can relax a little can go a long way (or so I've heard, I still haven't mastered this one).
That link doesn't work. Correct link !autisticandadhd@lemmy.world
do kinda doubt I have autism. I have many pretty good friends and while I do find it uncomfortable talking to new people I think thats pretty normal to some extent. Although I may be wrong.
I definitely am like that and definitely am autistic.
Did you know autistics not only often struggle to talk to new people, but can also have friends... unlike what many people claim?
Also, please don't say "have autism", that's painful to read. People might be autistic, but they don't "have" it.
Another thing to avoid: "person with autism" (It is: autistic person)
Sorry, I will have a look into the other symptoms of autism.
There are no specific symptoms, it's too complex. There are things that often occur, but for some people the opposite might be true and they are still autistic.
The best to learn more is to read as much as you can and make sure what you read is good quality, as there's a lot of bullshit out there when it comes ro autism.
Thanks. That was really arrogant of me to say I have friends so I mustn't be autistic, the only autistic people I actually know have many friends and I am friends with quite a few of there friends.
Anyhow I do notice that I have a few tenancies like extra attention to detail such as when choosing a spoon from a cutlery draw I will usually go through a few spoons to find one I like the look of. I also find things that move in nature really interesting, like creeks or rivers. Also I mentioned this before I recently found a recording of me watching an entire washing machine cycle. I'm not really sure if that is even a symptom or if it's just me, I'll look into it.
To me there are more things in there that seem autistic, but then it is also impossible to tell for sure from just one comment.
One thing in particular is noteworthy: Being friends with quite a few autistic people. Autistic people often end up becoming friends without knowing they're autistic, just because they often connect much better than with neurotypicals.
One thing that is often associated with being autistic is fascination with flowing water, but ADHD folks could also find that fascinating, of course.
I ment i am friends of friends of autistic people, I'm not directly friends with autistic people. Sorry I phrased that kinda badly.