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Or you can not be arrogant towards your friends and family who have probably helped you on lots of occasions and will probably keep being there for you in the future.
Idk man, unconditional sharing feels pretty good, tbh. Making them jump through hoops isn't really my jam. To me this kinda all plays into making a stronger bond with people that are close to me, so maybe we have different reasons for why we are sharing our stuff.
Inb4 "we are not the same" meme
I'm not arrogant, just don't assume that people are dumb and inept. If they can't or don't want to give a bit of time to setup it, well how can someone be forced to use free service that causes momentarily inconvenience once to use. ๐
Pass. Users cause complexities. Complexities cause issues.
Users cause issues. Programs cause issues. Connecting it to the internet causes issues. Having a computer causes issues. Better turn your laptop off and throw it on the garbage.
The difference being, I can control computers, laptops, servers, etc. I cannot control users.
idk man, I wont keep my front gate unlocked just so my friends can come in without keys. either they accept having to carry an additional key, or they won't have access without me, but I'm not going to compromise on reasonable security. oh the burden I know.
I'll help them set it up if they want it, they are not on their own. but zero effort won't work.