Ask Lemmy

I've never had such a toxic statement come from the person who is supposed to look out for their employees wellbeing. They at least act like they have your best interest at heart.

Sorry to hear about your rough time. If I can share an insight, in the hopes you find it helpful; you have an overly high view of what managers are and do. Good ones try to do this, but the default is not this at all.

Your managers are there to make sure you get the job done in a manner consistent with their operating policies and proceedures. This can vary a lot depending on the job and industry, but it usually means, fast and cheap and profitable.

At no point does your well being enter into the equation. The very rare exceotion is for highly skilled ultra-rare empoyees in critical roles. They are too valuable to lose and get some consideration. Everyone else is disposable.

It's cheaper and easier to fire somone you lose confidence in, than it is to deal with someone with chronic issues who can't seperate their personal and professional life. Your messaging would be interpreted by most managers in this context. You're sowing the seeds of doubt and it can't help and can only hurt your standing in a company.

My advice, seek comfort and support outside of work. Don't let your boss know anything worse than cold&flu. Never share chronic conditions unless absolutely necessary. It almost never helps, but can and will be used against you in a court of employer opinion.

Source: Am manager, Have hired and fired many times, never because I wanted to. Always because the business demanded it.