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I was born Chinese and my family immigrated to the US when I was 8
I post about this topic a lot here, so forgive me for being so repetative for those who might've already read this before, this is sort of just my platform for cartharisis...
click if you actually wanna read this wall of text...
I was born during the One Child Policy, I was the second child in my family, the government would catch women who are pregnant with their second child and force abortion on them.Mom was supposed to have a IUD which would've prevented my conception, but she never got it and left her hometown to a city (Guanzhou btw) for work... and because of jurisdictional issues or something like that, she just never went back to her home village for like 5 entire years. Honestly I don't know if she even remember all the details... I mean it must've been traumatic for her. Repressed memories and all that stuff. One time she told me she forged a certificate about the IUD thing. But the other part of this was they would check fertile women for pregnancy every 3 months... I think this was only done for those that already had one child, but not too sure, mom didn't elaborate much... but she told me she convinced another women to pretend to be her and show up to take the pregnacy test...
So 5 years after my older brother was born, my parents conceived me...
Then my mom told me that at month 7 or 8, someone noticed but turned a blind eye to it so didn't report it.
So yeah... that's how I came into this world... allegedly, I mean I obviously cannot witness my own birth, so my parent's account are the only people that are direct witness to the entire ordeal that I know of... I mean I do have an older brother and I do have memories of China and the One Child Policy is public knowledge... so that's as much fact checking I could do... I'd just have to go by my mom's account
After I was born, I wasn't allowed to be registered into the Hukou, which meanr that I effectively did not legally exist, until my parents paid the massive fine somewhetr between ¥20000 to ¥30000 rmb... (idk if they even remember the exact amount anymore... so long ago...) in around 2002 to 2010s, and it sounded like it was a lot from how my mom described it... they had to save every penny they had... I think they might've asked relatives or friends for money, possibly, but not sure... they didn't really elaborate...
So because of this... I feel rejected by China...
The other thing is... I was born in Guangzhou, and even after the fines thing was settled... the other problem was that my parents were rural... so we were essentially second class residents in Guangzhou, we cannot get a Guangzhou Hukou... me and my older brother are not allowed in Guangzhou public schools, even though my parents worked in Guangzhou... so they had to pay for a separate shitty school that's, according to mom, worse than public schools...
So I also can't really call my self a 廣州人 (Guangzhou-er) even though I can speak both Cantonese and Mandarin (sort of... now English has kinda taken over my brain)...
So that's the China story...
Then the USA...
Okay I don't need to explain this one much...
American-Born Chinese bullied me for being a weird kid that didn't speak much English at first... then for non-Asians that I encounter... its racism, not everyone of course, but common enough to have this feeling of "rejection"
I do have US Citizenship... so I should be feeling very "fitting in" here... I can speak English very close to a native speaker...
But then we got a new sheriff in town... a second time... 🤦♂️ (y'all know who...)
So yeah...
Haven't actually encountered ICE yet... but this is causing a lot of anxiety...
The US is beautiful, but politics is so corrupted... ugh...
Idk if it's paranoia... but I feel kinda like very hyper vigilant if I'm in a predominantly white neighborhood...
Haven't seen a lynch mob yet... but the thought of it is kinda scary...
Hey I'm in Guangzhou right now! Even if you went back, it's probably not the place you remember, though the air is the worst of the 12 chinese cities I've been to so far, and its almost 90 degrees and humid so that's probably the same. (Not as bad as Almaty, Hanoi, or HCMC, but still cooking me alive while destroying my allergies).
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Hey, you wanna visit my old neighborhood?
I mean I'm not gonna give the exact address, but you can take a look at 广州大道北 梅花园 麦地西街
The latest Baidu street view I found was in like 2014... so yea idk how it looks now...
My mom and older brother is in China right now... they got their US Passports and the 10 year "visiting relatives" visa and they just left like on sunday (last sunday, that is)
Apparanly my mom is pressuring my older brother to get married... lol (he's like 28 or 29)...
Mom and her friend network thing got bro and some girl added eacher other on Wechat and I think they've been chatting for a while... and now I guess they are about to meet or something... or perhaps if not a good match, then mom's gonma pressure him to meet with other "marriage candidates"... lol
As for me... I didn't feel like visiting... Mom asked if I wanna come and I just was like "nah fam"
Also why did she even ask lmfao, this trip is for my older brother to go pursue marriage plans... why the fuck would I tag along? lmfao, that is sooo fucking weird to do... even my older brother was like "wtf, dont let this annoying shit come" (paraphrased)
(I mean I didn't even have a valid passport lol, I just submitted the application for it yesterday at a post office)
I have a bunch of stuff not backed up and am too internet addicted to chance VPNs not working and then youtube or other stuff blocked... I'd have withdrawl from that lol... too much stress for me...
(And also a bit of the politcs thing, just feel kinda resentful towards the government)
Mom and brother are staying with one of my aunts (aka: her sister) in Taishan...
I asked them to check the internet thing but brother completely ignores me (not really on speaking terms right now) and mom is digitally illiterate to check for what websites work or not... or maybe she just doesn't care since she's so obsessed with trying to get my older brother to get into a marriage... cuz mom says if you wait, you will "never find anyone and die alone"... lmfao
So... roaming... T-Mobile charges $0.25 for each minute of calling... but mom got the international pass for like $50 so its now unlimited... so I don't have to install WeChat and make an account just to talk to her...
So I just randomly call all the time and be like "MOOOMMM" 😅 (I mean if you don't use the unlimited minutes, its going to waste lol)
So yea, that's my story, how's everything going for you?
Here's that same pic at night.
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you're designated wingman /s
Your neighborhood is 30 minutes away by subway and bicycle, and not in the direction my hotel is in. But it should be somewhere in this picture:
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You can get a hk based esim via alipay for 50 cents a gig, your mom is massively overpaying. Otherwise, most servers on latvpn and vpnify work.
You have to apply for chinese visas at application centers, and it takes multiple days once you hand over the passport for them to add it, and there's like 3 centers in the US, it was easier to fly family to Hanoi and have them get 60 day instead of 90 day L visas (tokyo is another option) than DC or Chicago. If you ever apply, book cancelable flights, screenshot the proof, immediately cancel, they don't check. Have AI generate your itinerary.
Good, still doing the digital nomad thing. Wasn't expecting to miss Japan so much. It's kinda lonely not being able to speak the language, but that will change when I meet up with friends in vietnam again. I understand even less vn than mando, but theres more english speakers.
Honestly, if it was practical, you should have done it. Just go find a cheap hotel room or hostel for <10USD/night, and do your own thing, maybe meeting up with family for standard tourist things.
Here's a dog on an emoped
Edit: instance is too slow to upload.