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Dropped my daughter off at a new school friends house for a few hours of play. While having a little me time decided to rub one out. Fell asleep. Woke up from my timer reminding me to get my daughter (I'm a pro).
So i arrive and the mother is already all over me with stories of her divorce and how her ex is the one causing it (and quite a few highly private stories) and my daughter ignores my not so subtle hints that I want to leave now. (Usually thats all good fun). When suddenly their big ass dog starts taking and interest in my private parts and won't leave me alone. (probably still smelling like jizz.) And their fucking owner doesn't take the hint to control their fucking dog.
So now I start to sweat and mix in some fear and can't run and just grab my kid and go nor can I yell for my kid as there are big ass teeth centimeters away from my crotch.
This goes on for close to an hour escalating slowly to the point that I get mad at the kid, the mother and the dog and just start walking out and cursing.
That day my kid learned code for "danger, leave calmly, leave now". These days they all know a whole hand full of code phrases for: this is no joke, move now.
Definitely important. My wife and I have a code word for GTFO as well, from some torturous experiences with THAT part of the family.
But why hinting? Why not just actually use clear words and tell them to control their dog? With clear community, no code phrases or hinting isn't needed.
Hinting was a generous use of the word. I kept walking backwards and turning to keep the dog from my crotch and she just kept droning on about her bullshit.
Thats still hinting. Just say: "hey i dont like big dogs and its makeing me uncomfortabel, can you please keep them away from me?"
This has the added benefit, that if they dont keep him away after 2-3 min you can just double down and say "Sorry your dog is unbearable and i am going to leave."
Think about that suggestion the next time a woman tells you how somebody made her uncomfortable. Just tell him. No bother.
Not the same thing. If a creep is called out on his behavior, he may escalate. If the owner, likely oblivious, is called out on her dogs behavior, she'll either stop it or continue to ignore it, she's not going to make the dog attack him.
Do you have a fear of dogs? Have you not ever had a pet dog? Crotch sniffing is pretty normal for them jizz or not. It's not even the most embarrassing ' normal dog ' thing they do.