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I do think of gay bars as spaces SAFE for gay people, not exclusive to us.
So as long as I'm a good boy, I'm okay to be there?
I'm not going there on purpose, but I managed to stumble into bars a couple of times without noticing it at first. I finished my drink and went on as I didn't want to offend anyone as the foreign object invading.
This was me in a foreign city one time. Walked into a random bar by myself, had a few drinks. In retrospect i think it was a gay bar, but i had no idea.
Pretty much like this, yeah, but it was all men.
This lesbian bar has no fire exits!
Nobody cares.
When I was younger gay bars were always the pre-drink bars.
It's not like they're all you can eat buffets where everyone is down, it's just a place where gay people feel comfortable approaching people they're attracted to.
So by being there, the only thing you're agreeing to, is not to freak out if a guy hits on you. It's a very low bar to clear.
Probably because that's what they are supposed to be?
That being said, as a straight man who's been to a lot of gay bars all over, I know more people (regardless of gender) who were drugged at gay bars than people (again, regardless of gender) who were drugged in "straight bars".
Like, it depends on your definition of "safe" I guess, and obviously the individual bar. All it takes is one douchebag to make anywhere unsafe.
You probably just meant "gay bars are a safe place to be openly (whatever sexuality you are)".
Which is true.
I've never seen any gay bar discriminate against straight people tho, the absolute closest would be they treat hot women as normal people. And especially for young attractive women that could come off as discrimination. Because they don't realize how much preferential treatment they get at straight bars, and that it's all based on their physical looks.
The last part reads super misogynist. Young attractive women have problems of their own, feeling underpriviledged in gay bars is not one of them.