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Research disagrees with you, humans are very much capable of not caring about certain people. Also, I'm glad you never had to experience what people truly not caring is like.
I'd like to see that research if you wouldn't mind linking it.
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/317615470_Empathy_Group_Identity_and_the_Mechanisms_of_Exclusion_An_Investigation_into_the_Limits_of_Empathy
There are a lot of these kind of studies about empathy. I didn't find any particularly about "what this other person thinks of me" (I don't know if there is a specific name for this that would be easier to search), but I think the logical leap from "being able to disable empathy for other people" to "not care what those people think about you" is not really disputable. Though of course it might not be quite the same thing, I think when you can disable empathy for someone, you can also pretty easily disable to care about what they think of you.
Well, I think those are two different things. Empathy is about feeling or understanding someone else's emotions. Being able to dial that down (like a surgeon or soldier does) doesn't mean you stop caring what people think of you. Psychopaths are a good example - very low empathy, but often highly attuned to social perception because it helps them manipulate others.