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Obviously this is not a representative sample, but it's hard not to notice that the three redditors in these screenshots that are gatekeeping gaming all have female-presenting avatars. It makes me think of an article I read two or three years ago written by a black man saying he gave his son advice that in an emergency white cops were a significantly safer bet because institutionalized racism gives them a lot more leeway to show empathy towards minorities without being ostracized for it. A woman actually trying to fit into a misogynistic culture is going to feel more pressure to consistently prove her belonging, and can end up being more ruthless in enforcing the misogyny and more effective because her gender allows a cover of legitimacy.
anime girl PFPs are the new 'xXx_420_BLAZE_IT_xXx'
.....it's the same dude who had a ar15/skull/COD Ghost PFP 10 years ago...
Anime avatars have been a thing for much longer than that but these are clearly not anime girls, it's the thing where people customize the reddit logo to look like themselves. I might be wrong but I'm under the impression that the culture with these isn't one where toxic masculinity will mesh with presenting as female.
One of them has a trans balloon, this seems to further ratify what you are saying, trying to validate a stereotype to fit in better. This is sad from humanity :(
Remember kids you can be who you are without needing external validation. Especially not external validation gotten by being against your “own group “
I don't think it's quite that straightforward, because they're doing this because they're also perceiving gamers as their own group and feeling like being a part of two groups at odds with one another demands that a choice be made. Their version of not being against their own group begins with asking themselves "which group do I identify more with", rather than asking whether the two have to be at odds with each other in the first place. The lesson is that your immutable characteristics are not character failures, and if you're starting to feel like they are it's really important to introspect on where that's coming from.
I know people generally look at this kind of gatekeeping from the outside and write it off as a repressed self-hatred, but I'm kind of inclined to think of it the opposite way. If your immutable characteristics are a handicap to being a part of something important to you, then actually being accepted into that group is a triumph that most people with the same handicap can't achieve. If gamers are cool and I don't question the premise that girls aren't fit to be gamers, then if I can kind of sort of be accepted in this space that's still better than most other girls. The boys fit in better here of course, but it's not impressive it's just normal. This other girl is just larping because she wants to be like me.
We should strive to identify cultures of looking down on others. We should strive not to participate in that. Don't just find comfort in being who you are, but allow others to find the same comfort with more ease than you had.