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Partying
Never understood the appeal
Have you tried drugs
I think that's the ticket for a lot of things like a rave, a party, or even a concert. I've been to 5 or 10 concerts in my life, and every single one. I'm bored silly after 30 minutes. I don't drink or do drugs and I figure that's the missing ingredient.
Oh yeah me neither. That must be it then, but I will not drink or do drugs just because of social pressure.
I never did it for the social pressure. I was always curious and then I found out they’re really fun
Have you ever looked at the back of a dollar bill
There’s some spooky shit going on back there. And it’s green, too!
If you don't like partying, either you just don't like people and music (which is fine, no shaming intended), or you have only ever been to bad parties.
A good party has:
Seems like I’m the issue, I’ll go point by point:
Since I don’t party, I don’t know anyone and if I happen to know someone we have nothing in common, as with most people my age, since they only care about looks, the gym, gossip and partying + I live in an uncivilised country where drinking = getting wasted and people often start around the mark of 11-12yo.
I don’t like most modern music and have tinnitus. Also I’m not that big of a music fan in general, I’m more of a visual arts type of person.
I don’t see the fun in dancing, can’t dance (no one has ever taught me) and feel very self conscious
Wait, you are supposed to hear anything apart from the music?
Costumes? Never heard of parties with costumes (apart from Halloween)
There are places where you can do other activities outside of dancing with the people there?
Thank you for sharing your perspective. Let me first reiterate that none of what I wrote was intended as shaming or attacking people who do not like partying.
I strongly disagree with "Seems like I’m the issue". Seems to me more like you have very good reasons to dislike all parties you could realistically attend currently, and to generalize from that to not liking parties in general is only natural.
I did not want to convince anyone they are wrong; just to share my perspective that not all parties are the same, and they can be fun even for people who think they don't like them in general if done right.
I understood it and I’m very happy that you avoided calling me simply “no fun”, and instead you wrote a pretty sizeable and detailed comment
It’s nice seeing great people ;)