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Can you choose not to breathe or drink? I'm all for people electing not to have kids, but eating is a biological necessity for life. Your analogy isn't the best, mate. You're arguably not controlled by your biology when it comes to reproduction, but what about sex drive? Does that have no impact on your habits or lifestyle? Again, it's possible, but not the norm.
Contraceptives exists. A desire for sex is not a desire to reproduce.
Like I don't understand what wanting kids even implies. What specifically do people yearn for that can't be attained in other ways?
I think many people had happy childhoods, enjoyed family life, and want the same when they're older. Most humans are tribal and often want to be part of a family and, indeed, to add to it.
Personally, I was indifferent to having children throughout my 20s and well into my 30s. My wife was keen, and I wasn't averse to the idea.
As it happens, it was, by an order of magnitude, the best decision I made in my entire life. It completely altered my perception of self, the world, and everything.
Still sounds like Stockholm syndrome.
You should probably talk to someone, mate.
You haven't given me a single reason. Just platitudes and the fact that you went along with your so wishes without wanting it yourself.