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Guys I'm in a slump, I keep having the same fight every time I feel bored and want to go out to do something and I can't because I don't know what to do because I don't even know what kinds of things I can do, like what classification of activity I should pick. And even when I do pick an activity class I'm paralyzed with the decisions regarding how to execute that activity. It's a 3dimentional puzzle of trying to find what doesn't make me miserable, is actually available to me, and I understand.

Here is my current list of activity classes, I keep it as an Obsidian Kanban board where each lane is a my opinion. What classifications should I add or if you have any ideas for what specific things I can do I'd really appreciate that too.

I'm based in Brooklyn


New things

  • [ ] Hobbyist Groups Model Building, Gardening Clubs #social
  • [ ] Joining Environmental Groups #social

Want to do

  • [ ] Volunteering at Charities #social #commitment
  • [ ] Calligraphy #lazy #equipment
  • [ ] Electronic Circuit Building #equipment #alone
  • [ ] Skating Inline, Ice #sport #inside #winter
  • [ ] Kickboxing #sport
  • [ ] Canoeing #sport #social #outside
  • [ ] Volleyball #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Handmade Jewelry #equipment #class
  • [ ] Robotics #equipment #expensive #alone
  • [ ] Electronic Music Production #alone #class
  • [ ] Nature Walks for Relaxation #alone
  • [ ] Listening to Calming Music #alone
  • [ ] Progressive Muscle Relaxation #alone
  • [ ] Joining a Film Club #club
  • [ ] Community Art Classes #social #class
  • [ ] Collage Making #materials
  • [ ] Baking as a creative activity #lazy #home #materials
  • [ ] Music Composition #lazy
  • [ ] Sewing #art #equipment
  • [ ] Coffee Latte Art #class #equipment
  • [ ] Swimming

Don't want to do

  • [ ] Volunteering for Political Causes #social
  • [ ] Participating in Dance Classes #social
  • [ ] Joining a Choir or Music Group #social
  • [ ] Language Exchange Clubs #social #club
  • [ ] Furniture Restoration #expensive #materials #resources
  • [ ] Garden Design #outside
  • [ ] Film Making #art #equipment
  • [ ] Rugby #sport #social #club
  • [ ] Lacrosse #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Dodgeball #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Ultimate Frisbee #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Parkour #sport #social #outside
  • [ ] Wrestling #sport #social #club #inside
  • [ ] Surfing #sport #summer #outside
  • [ ] Snowboarding #sport #expensive #winter
  • [ ] Skiing Alpine or Cross-Country #sport #expensive #winter
  • [ ] Rowing #sport #social #club #outside #hard
  • [ ] Gymnastics #sport #social #club #inside #hard
  • [ ] Cricket #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Basketball #sport #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Football/Soccer #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Weight Lifting #sport #club #hard
  • [ ] Rock Climbing #sport
  • [ ] Martial Arts Karate, Judo #sport
  • [ ] Dancing various styles #sport #club #social

Planning

  • [ ] Volunteer at animal shelter
  • [ ] Pottery #art #expensive #equipment
  • [ ] Sculpting #art #expensive #equipment

Doing

  • [ ] Reading manga #lazy

Will do it again

  • [ ] Deep Breathing Exercises #alone
  • [ ] Boxing #sport #hard #club #equipment
  • [ ] Yoga #sport #inside #alone #club
  • [ ] Hiking #sport #outside
  • [ ] Swimming #sport #club
  • [ ] Spas #lazy #expensive
  • [ ] Writing Journaling, Novels, Poetry #art
  • [ ] Playing a Musical Instrument #art
  • [ ] Attending Networking Events #social
  • [ ] Aromatherapy #therapy
  • [ ] Massage Therapy
  • [ ] Herbal Therapy #therapy
  • [ ] Tea Ceremonies #alone
  • [ ] Mobile App Development
  • [ ] Open Source Contributions
  • [ ] Going to a comedy show #outside #lazy

Did it once

  • [ ] Photography #art #equipment
  • [ ] Joining a Book Club #social
  • [ ] Cycling #sport #equipment #outside
  • [ ] Drawing #art #skilled
  • [ ] Painting #art #equipment
  • [ ] Scuba diving

Do it with friends

  • [ ] Attending Community Festivals #social
  • [ ] Attending Concerts and Live Performances #social
  • [ ] Cooking Classes with Friends #social #class #club

Hated it

  • [ ] Meditation #alone
  • [ ] Running #sport #outside #hard
  • [ ] Sitting in Silence

Used to do it but its over

  • [ ] Gaming Communities Online or Offline #social
  • [ ] Tennis #sport #social #club #outside
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Start with something social - like volunteering for a specific event. There you will meet new people, but the commitment is short-lived. You can try to expand that friendship further on.

You can try picking a single class at a community college. For example, I took a writing class, which absolutely has interaction. Again it has a definitive start and end so that you don’t have to keep up with it.

Additionally, you might consider joining a workout class at a community center. It doesn’t have the full-time commitment of a gym, but it does allow you to meet some new people.

It looks like you kind of have analysis paralysis. Pick one thing, and try it. But understand that you may need to push yourself outside a comfort zone. And you really need to understand what it is you wish to obtain from it. Are you looking for mind activity? Or are you looking for a social environment? Or are you looking for a new hobby?