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What do you do for fun (programming.dev)
submitted 1 day ago by danhab99@programming.dev to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Guys I'm in a slump, I keep having the same fight every time I feel bored and want to go out to do something and I can't because I don't know what to do because I don't even know what kinds of things I can do, like what classification of activity I should pick. And even when I do pick an activity class I'm paralyzed with the decisions regarding how to execute that activity. It's a 3dimentional puzzle of trying to find what doesn't make me miserable, is actually available to me, and I understand.

Here is my current list of activity classes, I keep it as an Obsidian Kanban board where each lane is a my opinion. What classifications should I add or if you have any ideas for what specific things I can do I'd really appreciate that too.

I'm based in Brooklyn

New things

  • [ ] Hobbyist Groups Model Building, Gardening Clubs #social
  • [ ] Joining Environmental Groups #social

Want to do

  • [ ] Volunteering at Charities #social #commitment
  • [ ] Calligraphy #lazy #equipment
  • [ ] Electronic Circuit Building #equipment #alone
  • [ ] Skating Inline, Ice #sport #inside #winter
  • [ ] Kickboxing #sport
  • [ ] Canoeing #sport #social #outside
  • [ ] Volleyball #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Handmade Jewelry #equipment #class
  • [ ] Robotics #equipment #expensive #alone
  • [ ] Electronic Music Production #alone #class
  • [ ] Nature Walks for Relaxation #alone
  • [ ] Listening to Calming Music #alone
  • [ ] Progressive Muscle Relaxation #alone
  • [ ] Joining a Film Club #club
  • [ ] Community Art Classes #social #class
  • [ ] Collage Making #materials
  • [ ] Baking as a creative activity #lazy #home #materials
  • [ ] Music Composition #lazy
  • [ ] Sewing #art #equipment
  • [ ] Coffee Latte Art #class #equipment
  • [ ] Swimming

Don't want to do

  • [ ] Volunteering for Political Causes #social
  • [ ] Participating in Dance Classes #social
  • [ ] Joining a Choir or Music Group #social
  • [ ] Language Exchange Clubs #social #club
  • [ ] Furniture Restoration #expensive #materials #resources
  • [ ] Garden Design #outside
  • [ ] Film Making #art #equipment
  • [ ] Rugby #sport #social #club
  • [ ] Lacrosse #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Dodgeball #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Ultimate Frisbee #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Parkour #sport #social #outside
  • [ ] Wrestling #sport #social #club #inside
  • [ ] Surfing #sport #summer #outside
  • [ ] Snowboarding #sport #expensive #winter
  • [ ] Skiing Alpine or Cross-Country #sport #expensive #winter
  • [ ] Rowing #sport #social #club #outside #hard
  • [ ] Gymnastics #sport #social #club #inside #hard
  • [ ] Cricket #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Basketball #sport #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Football/Soccer #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Weight Lifting #sport #club #hard
  • [ ] Rock Climbing #sport
  • [ ] Martial Arts Karate, Judo #sport
  • [ ] Dancing various styles #sport #club #social

Planning

  • [ ] Volunteer at animal shelter
  • [ ] Pottery #art #expensive #equipment
  • [ ] Sculpting #art #expensive #equipment

Doing

  • [ ] Reading manga #lazy

Will do it again

  • [ ] Deep Breathing Exercises #alone
  • [ ] Boxing #sport #hard #club #equipment
  • [ ] Yoga #sport #inside #alone #club
  • [ ] Hiking #sport #outside
  • [ ] Swimming #sport #club
  • [ ] Spas #lazy #expensive
  • [ ] Writing Journaling, Novels, Poetry #art
  • [ ] Playing a Musical Instrument #art
  • [ ] Attending Networking Events #social
  • [ ] Aromatherapy #therapy
  • [ ] Massage Therapy
  • [ ] Herbal Therapy #therapy
  • [ ] Tea Ceremonies #alone
  • [ ] Mobile App Development
  • [ ] Open Source Contributions
  • [ ] Going to a comedy show #outside #lazy

Did it once

  • [ ] Photography #art #equipment
  • [ ] Joining a Book Club #social
  • [ ] Cycling #sport #equipment #outside
  • [ ] Drawing #art #skilled
  • [ ] Painting #art #equipment
  • [ ] Scuba diving

Do it with friends

  • [ ] Attending Community Festivals #social
  • [ ] Attending Concerts and Live Performances #social
  • [ ] Cooking Classes with Friends #social #class #club

Hated it

  • [ ] Meditation #alone
  • [ ] Running #sport #outside #hard
  • [ ] Sitting in Silence

Used to do it but its over

  • [ ] Gaming Communities Online or Offline #social
  • [ ] Tennis #sport #social #club #outside
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[–] underThunder@thelemmy.club 6 points 1 day ago

You really need to work on getting comfortable with sitting in silence because being alone with your thoughts is where wisdom comes from.

[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 35 points 1 day ago (2 children)

[πŸ₯‡] Create complicated lists

[–] helix@feddit.org 4 points 1 day ago

It's not that complicated as soon as you ignore all the tags and formatting. Then it's just a list of positive activities.

[–] lattrommi@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

[β‹…] Sewing #art #equipment

Start off small, try sewing scrap cloth A to scrap cloth B. If you don't hate it and your neck or fingers don't hurt too much after, it might be the ~~hobby~~ critical post-apocalypse life skill you needed. Next thing you know you'll have upgraded to leather and sewing fake cat ears onto all your hats or using wire to add strips of stainless steel to leather gloves to give them that sweet medieval guantlet look. Even if you don't descend that far into the sewing void, knowing how to quickly stitch up the crotch of pants that rip open unepectedly is one of those things you will always appreciate.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hiking doesn't have to be a solitary pursuit.

I love doing it in a group. Hiking, too.

[–] helix@feddit.org 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Came here to say hiking and group sex aswell. πŸ™ƒ

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago

They both have the added benefit of getting you healthier, too

[–] AlabasterQueen76@discuss.online 2 points 1 day ago

Start with something social - like volunteering for a specific event. There you will meet new people, but the commitment is short-lived. You can try to expand that friendship further on.

You can try picking a single class at a community college. For example, I took a writing class, which absolutely has interaction. Again it has a definitive start and end so that you don’t have to keep up with it.

Additionally, you might consider joining a workout class at a community center. It doesn’t have the full-time commitment of a gym, but it does allow you to meet some new people.

It looks like you kind of have analysis paralysis. Pick one thing, and try it. But understand that you may need to push yourself outside a comfort zone. And you really need to understand what it is you wish to obtain from it. Are you looking for mind activity? Or are you looking for a social environment? Or are you looking for a new hobby?

[–] luthis@lemmy.nz 1 points 1 day ago

Get a bmx and go ride around the city, learn to do tricks. Hours of fun. You'll pick up chicks too. If you give your bike a girls name.

[–] Melobol@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 day ago

And I thought I have too amny on my list ....
How about you put them in a hat and draw from the hat every week. Aftef you are done with it you can ask for a new list :D

[–] Berttheduck@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 day ago

I have picked up HEMA historical European martial arts. It's sword fighting. It's super fun. Everyone at my club is a massive nerd as you might expect. It's good exercise and genuinely fun. The down side is the kit is pretty expensive. At my club we have a newby joining session with a discounted attendance period which builds to a safety test before you really need to get safety kit which gives people a chance to try it before they spend hundreds on jackets and masks (and swords!).

[–] osanna@lemmy.vg 2 points 1 day ago

I volunteered at a farm animal sanctuary. It was super eye opening seeing the animals. I got to play with some little piglets and cattle calves and shit. It was great. Maybe look at something like that

[–] Professorozone@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I play disc golf. Where I live it's free in the various state parks. You do have to buy some discs, about $20 each, but you don't need many.

[–] AstroLightz@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Write code and play games. I'm currently hyper fixating on Satisfactory right now, and it's fun.

[–] danhab99@programming.dev 1 points 1 day ago

I actually did get back into satisfactory bc code wasn't fun for a few weeks, it really made me miss code

[–] whotookkarl@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago

Based on the stuff you didn't like it sounds like you want something challenging but not too hard and something in a group or duo instead of solo. Maybe a team sport that people don't take very seriously like join a bowling league or amateur league for something you used to play. If I'm ever really stuck I'll read some philosophy for inspiration on what to do, ethics are normative so they might help in motivating a specific choice over another. Maybe In Praise of Idleness by Bertrand Russell for a short essay or for something more substantive but not dry or boring Knowledge, Reality, and Value by Michael Huemer.

[–] GiorgioPerlasca@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

Just try things. I mean a lot of things.

You will discover that you love doing things you would never expect to love. You will also find that things that are fun on paper are pretty boring to you when you do it.

[–] deadymouse@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm not sure lol.

[–] kepix@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

i just hope you dont work in hr