I'm afraid that's kinda just how it is... with the dating apps at least. If you're on a dating app, you're a disposable swipe. I had 3+ dates with this girl recently, and I was starting to think that this could be a thing, and then se fue. Silence. Not even a thanks. Anyways, that's kind of how it is apparently.
So here's my recommendation instead. Go and do shit. With other people. Don't try to date, try to open up the possibility for a date to happen. And then don't chase it, let it happen. Eg, go and learn salsa dancing. (As an introvert, it was a real hard thing for me to do (understatement), but it was so worth it.) Or join a hiking group, or Dnd, or pub quiz, or just anything that gets you into different social circles, meeting new people, where you aren't a disposable swipe, you're a team mate.
Also, don't read into other people. Sometimes people get busy with their lives, or have a crisis, a million reasons why they ghost you. It's not you, it's them. Girls don't take apps seriously either. They are expecting 99% of douchebags, and they would be 98% correct.
Final tip, get a gym buddy. That does wonders for ADHD, depression, confidence, energy, etc etc etc.
Tl;dr, apps suck, go get involved socially, work on yourself.
This would be a great idea for caving