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Guys I'm in a slump, I keep having the same fight every time I feel bored and want to go out to do something and I can't because I don't know what to do because I don't even know what kinds of things I can do, like what classification of activity I should pick. And even when I do pick an activity class I'm paralyzed with the decisions regarding how to execute that activity. It's a 3dimentional puzzle of trying to find what doesn't make me miserable, is actually available to me, and I understand.

Here is my current list of activity classes, I keep it as an Obsidian Kanban board where each lane is a my opinion. What classifications should I add or if you have any ideas for what specific things I can do I'd really appreciate that too.

I'm based in Brooklyn


New things

  • [ ] Hobbyist Groups Model Building, Gardening Clubs #social
  • [ ] Joining Environmental Groups #social

Want to do

  • [ ] Volunteering at Charities #social #commitment
  • [ ] Calligraphy #lazy #equipment
  • [ ] Electronic Circuit Building #equipment #alone
  • [ ] Skating Inline, Ice #sport #inside #winter
  • [ ] Kickboxing #sport
  • [ ] Canoeing #sport #social #outside
  • [ ] Volleyball #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Handmade Jewelry #equipment #class
  • [ ] Robotics #equipment #expensive #alone
  • [ ] Electronic Music Production #alone #class
  • [ ] Nature Walks for Relaxation #alone
  • [ ] Listening to Calming Music #alone
  • [ ] Progressive Muscle Relaxation #alone
  • [ ] Joining a Film Club #club
  • [ ] Community Art Classes #social #class
  • [ ] Collage Making #materials
  • [ ] Baking as a creative activity #lazy #home #materials
  • [ ] Music Composition #lazy
  • [ ] Sewing #art #equipment
  • [ ] Coffee Latte Art #class #equipment
  • [ ] Swimming

Don't want to do

  • [ ] Volunteering for Political Causes #social
  • [ ] Participating in Dance Classes #social
  • [ ] Joining a Choir or Music Group #social
  • [ ] Language Exchange Clubs #social #club
  • [ ] Furniture Restoration #expensive #materials #resources
  • [ ] Garden Design #outside
  • [ ] Film Making #art #equipment
  • [ ] Rugby #sport #social #club
  • [ ] Lacrosse #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Dodgeball #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Ultimate Frisbee #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Parkour #sport #social #outside
  • [ ] Wrestling #sport #social #club #inside
  • [ ] Surfing #sport #summer #outside
  • [ ] Snowboarding #sport #expensive #winter
  • [ ] Skiing Alpine or Cross-Country #sport #expensive #winter
  • [ ] Rowing #sport #social #club #outside #hard
  • [ ] Gymnastics #sport #social #club #inside #hard
  • [ ] Cricket #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Basketball #sport #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Football/Soccer #sport #social #club #outside
  • [ ] Weight Lifting #sport #club #hard
  • [ ] Rock Climbing #sport
  • [ ] Martial Arts Karate, Judo #sport
  • [ ] Dancing various styles #sport #club #social

Planning

  • [ ] Volunteer at animal shelter
  • [ ] Pottery #art #expensive #equipment
  • [ ] Sculpting #art #expensive #equipment

Doing

  • [ ] Reading manga #lazy

Will do it again

  • [ ] Deep Breathing Exercises #alone
  • [ ] Boxing #sport #hard #club #equipment
  • [ ] Yoga #sport #inside #alone #club
  • [ ] Hiking #sport #outside
  • [ ] Swimming #sport #club
  • [ ] Spas #lazy #expensive
  • [ ] Writing Journaling, Novels, Poetry #art
  • [ ] Playing a Musical Instrument #art
  • [ ] Attending Networking Events #social
  • [ ] Aromatherapy #therapy
  • [ ] Massage Therapy
  • [ ] Herbal Therapy #therapy
  • [ ] Tea Ceremonies #alone
  • [ ] Mobile App Development
  • [ ] Open Source Contributions
  • [ ] Going to a comedy show #outside #lazy

Did it once

  • [ ] Photography #art #equipment
  • [ ] Joining a Book Club #social
  • [ ] Cycling #sport #equipment #outside
  • [ ] Drawing #art #skilled
  • [ ] Painting #art #equipment
  • [ ] Scuba diving

Do it with friends

  • [ ] Attending Community Festivals #social
  • [ ] Attending Concerts and Live Performances #social
  • [ ] Cooking Classes with Friends #social #class #club

Hated it

  • [ ] Meditation #alone
  • [ ] Running #sport #outside #hard
  • [ ] Sitting in Silence

Used to do it but its over

  • [ ] Gaming Communities Online or Offline #social
  • [ ] Tennis #sport #social #club #outside
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You really need to work on getting comfortable with sitting in silence because being alone with your thoughts is where wisdom comes from.