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I am also not convinced that excited hyena furries of either gender signify "chill".
There's a local discord server for my city that was set up by users/mods of the subreddit for my city, and I joined a few years ago before I quit reddit.
It fucking sucks. Everyone just going on about random bullshit that doesn't even matter, but anytime I try to say something and bring attention to a local issue, I get fucking ignored or downright disagreed with like there really are no problems around here.
Also, it's a very mixed group of ages. You have adults in their 40s-60s messaging with literal teenagers who are still in high school, and actively messaging in the discord while they're at school most days. So you have adults talking with teens as if their equal peers on issues that adults should no longer concern themselves with; but I shouldn't be surprised when the Midwest produces exclusively "adult children" who still think the world works like social circles work in high school.
One of the men on the server, who's discord bio personally claims he's a furry and says he's in his late 30s-early 40s, is constantly talking to the younger users and it just gives me a bad feeling each time I see it. But I can't call them on it, because it's one big clique, and it fucking sucks.
It kind of sounds like they're all having a good time hanging out with each other, and you're frustrated that they're not responding to your attempts at getting attention.
A couple weeks ago I posted about being careful driving down a certain major street in the city because there were some very reckless drivers going up and down it. Doing shit like swerving between traffic through the smallest possible gaps, riding bumper to bumper, illegal u-turns (I actually witnessed them come to a red light, turn right onto the cross street, immediately pull a u-turn, then turn right again back onto the street we were originally on) and going like 60 in a 40 zone. I even called the cops because it was absolutely ridiculous.
On the discord people either ignored it, or were completely dismissive of it saying things like "well don't drive there if people are going to be idiots."
Americans and their idea that adults must never interact with younger people is fucking weird
It just gives me the ick when a self-proclaimed furry/fedora wearer is constantly talking to teenagers on a message board about how their day was at school.
Because that's literally what the conversations are. I'm sure it's not as bad as it is in my head, but don't go around literally calling yourself a furry and fedora guy, then talk to minors as if they're equal peers that understand how the world works.
That does really sound like grooming. Never ignore your instincts, I learned that one the hard way.