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If I had an extra hour or a few hours a day when I had free time, I wanted to help people online, something like support or something like that.

Why do I want this? The answer is: It brings me pleasure when I manage to help someone at least a little. And also when I listened to people on the Internet, just random people, they didn't even ask for help, I somehow instinctively felt that they had some kind of problems by the tone of their messages, and in the end I managed to cheer them up at least a little.

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[–] redlemace@lemmy.world 17 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Good thing to do! My tip: volunteer off-line. Help people live in the real world.

[–] deadymouse@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (4 children)

For me personally, this is much more difficult than it seems: I help people a little with small things on the street or in the store, for example, I sometimes give money if they do not have the necessary amount, but I am terribly ashamed to do it offline, and one funny incident happened; I tried to help the old man, he replied that it was not necessary and he would cope on his own, then I tried again, and he yelled at me.

And on the Internet, it's much easier, at least you have time to think about the answer.

[–] RoddyStiggs@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 hour ago

An organization with some structure might be a better fit.

Community theater? They always need stagehands, set builders, etc.

Same for community bands and orchestras. A librarian or personnel manager for a group like that is as good as gold.

Conservancy? Help protect your local wild lands?

Find a cause you care about and an organization that works for its benefit and call them to offer some of your time.

[–] redlemace@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago

Don't take it all out on one event. Sure, it's tough, but it's also tough to accept help. If it's not appriciated, well In any case you did your best and tried. That's enough.

[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

What did you learn from it about yourself?

[–] deadymouse@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

That helping people is an achievement. This is a thankless job, I know.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sorry that happened! Possibly he wanted to retain his independence as long as possible or sensed a threat (muggers offer "help" before mugging). It's always best to ask if you can be of assistance, and a simple, "Are you sure? It's no trouble," if declined is enough reassurance without being pushy. If the offer is declined a second time, a cheerful and sincere "Okay, have a great day/evening!" is an unakward way to take your leave.

I'm not sure how to volunteer online, unless you want to record audio books, you could upload to YT, or place a few free ads around to social media/local radio offering typing, proofreading, tech support, etc. But I have a feeling free tech support may consume more time than an hour.

It's good of you to want to offer your services. Thank you for that.

[–] deadymouse@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I’m sorry that happened! Possibly he wanted to retain his independence as long as possible or sensed a threat (muggers offer “help” before mugging). It’s always best to ask if you can be of assistance, and a simple, “Are you sure? It’s no trouble,” if declined is enough reassurance without being pushy. If the offer is declined a second time, a cheerful and sincere “Okay, have a great day/evening!” is an unakward way to take your leave.

Honestly, I did as you said, but that didn't stop him from doing what he did, lol. Oh, these old people.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 2 points 2 hours ago

Well, it's not for everyone. I've had my feelings hurt when I just wanted to help too. You do what best fits for you.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 5 points 5 hours ago

Assuming you're able, I second this. Elderly and infirm will be grateful for an hour of errands, meal prep, dish/laundry washing. Young, able may appreciate an hour of babysitting or reading to children.