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Got banned for telling people that wishing public figures to "kys" is mentally unhealthy
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this post was submitted on 11 Jun 2026
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This took place on a trans instance, that explicitly exists to provide a space for trans people that puts their needs and safety first. It has a zero tolerance policy for transphobia, for defending transphobes, for "just asking questions" transphobia etc.
And because of the nature of the fediverse, folk who don't want that experience have many other instances to choose from.
It's a specifically chosen and enforced policy.
Being opposed to telling transphobes to end their lives isn't transphobic.
Though I agree that migrating is the way to deal w unjustified bans.
I'm not sure I understand how that relates to my comment?
I was addressing the bit where you framed a consistent and long standing instance policy as off the cuff, arbitrary moderation.
It relates to your comment because, as you just said, you were addressing what you considered to be an instance policy.
The policy is on being a safe space for trans people and having zero tolerance for transphobia. Being a safe space for trans people ≠ being able to tell transphobes to end their lives.
Being against people telling transphobes to end their lives is not transphobia.
This is why it is indeed inappropriate moderation.
I also said it has a zero tolerance policy for defending transphobes, which is what got the OP pinged.
Saying nobody should tell anyone to end their life (transphobe or not) is NOT "defending transphobia".
Take a closer look at the mod log in question and have a look at what the OP actually said, and how they said it.
You should probably read the rest of their comments.
OP is full of shit.
Yeah. I'm just defending the part I think is reasonable (i.e. telling someone to end their lives isn't something that should be considered ok in any context).
I'm not going to advocate for saying it, but I'm also not going to pretend we aren't talking about a person actively advocating for the deaths of trans persons. So I'm also not going to pretend I'd be upset if Rowling slipped and killed herself instantly, or dropped a toaster into her bath because she somehow recognized how much of a deplorable piece of shit she is.
I'm also not going to defend OP for their actions here regardless of the potential intent behind a small fraction of the bigoted and ignorant comments they made. I would have banned them too.
Saying that is essentially the same as saying you want X person to end their life, so the difference is arbitrary.
I wouldn't have banned OP on the subject of being against calling for people to end their lives. Other aspects, maybe. Guess we agree to disagree.
They didn't get banned for saying "kys". They got banned for all the other horrible shit, as I said already.
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Saying I wouldn't be upset is not the same thing as saying I want it to happen. These are two different things. You're all over defending OPs nonsense with the same line of bs that this was the core problem. It wasn't. There isn't much else to say - OP is full of shit and deserved the ban entirely.
Hard disagree. Especially when you have graphic elaborations on how you'd picture it happening for example. You're just not coming out and saying it when the intent/desire underneath is obvious.
Examples are not "graphic elaborations".
You can try and push OPs lies about what was actually said and done, as well as the lies about the intent behind it (which is also obvious from their other comments, as I mentioned), but I'm not interested. Goodbye.
Pretty graphic of an elaboration if you ask me.
Strawman, my argument is about defending the principle, i.e. telling people to end their lives, is unethical. Got nothing to do with OP.
Then it has nothing to do with the post here in PTB.
Nope, it's about the principle that was described here, in the post, and comments.
Please read the sidebar.
And?