Asklemmy

Those who have more than enough should share with those who have less than enough.

Especially since the difference between the two groups is rarely hard work, and more often good fortune (like in this case, his dad receiving a house from his grandfather).

This applies to society at large, as much as l it applies to families.

Of course people are very bad at realizing they have enough. Entitlement creeps in very easily. Before you know it, two houses are no longer enough. No, you need three.

So, I was orphaned with living parents.

My partners father has some finacial security to say the least, when he was in his early 20s my partner was stuggling hard to get his footing due to mental health, and his father (or grandfather, both played a role I know) got him a single wide trailer in a park. No doubt thinking it be a starter home for him 20 years ago, however, we still live there. We wouldnt be able to raise our own son as well as we can without this leg up. It has afforded us comfort for the next gen of kids. We still struggle, but not nearly as much as we could be.

I spent my entire 20s struggling because I was a ward of the state in turning 18, and was left on the street. My grandmother, helped my mom with everything, cars, groceries, bills, even vacations. I got nothing. I was homeless while they had houses, I never did drugs, always had a job. My mother got all the help and I was left on the street, literally.

why did my grandmother help my mom? why did my mom not help me? My mom never so much as bought me a pair of school shoes, never mind a house. Why does my partners father still help his 40 year old son? The washing machine broke, so they got him a new one as a early christmas gift. Im so fucking greatful for his parents. And in turn, I can be generous with my own kin.

My parents let me struggle and neglected me, while they got all the help from their parents. Its not hard to see why folks find this unfair. Do you know what its like to be homless on the street while your grandmother has a five bedroom, empty house she wont let you live in? It crushes you, it makes you feel worthless to them.

Id rather help my child so they can be successful and happy.