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I'm more curious about how people have sex that spontaneously in random places?
It takes up to hours to get into the mood and any random place is likely uncomfortable and distracting enough to lose the hard earned mood.
Less about forcing a mood, it's more about following when it does hit, exponential bonus points if you're an exhibitionist.
Also, chemistry is huge, here. People work really weirdly in the head, so if, say, there's a positive feedback loop in the dynamic, it can be explosive.
Clicker training is also valid. Or really any kind of training, which is likely what "pheromones" really is: horny people get stupid, funky unique smells happen, now you've built a taste for it.
Like literally just read about any kink ever.
And, if you aren't feeling it, maybe try something or somebody different. Or maybe you're ace spectrum, that's totally valid, too.
Also, shame is a powerful thing. It causes people to do things and to not do things.
Basically, all people are weird, and that's okay.
Yeah over the years I've found tha people are different and of course there's nothing wrong in that. No ill will towards anyone on either end of the spectrum.
It's just always surprising to see someone with a complete opposite of my experiences as i tend to forget about it completely and only reminded of it by outside influence and even then it takes effort.
That's my secret, Cap - I'm always in the mood
Hats off, i envy you.
Oh don't, this morning I've been trying to write a report, but at the back of my mind I have the dream from last week of me licking sweat from between my wife's boobs, playing on repeat ... it's hard to maintain focus
Fair, i can see the downside of that, but having a permanent spank bank is a rather good benefit.
I wish I could just switch it on and off as needed, lol
I totally agree, on/off switch would be the best option.
For some people it's a lot easier and faster to get in the mood.
Yeah i know, but it still suprises me. I envy those people.