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Currently down about 120lbs after 8 years of going up and down. Net loss is 200lbs, given I had some regains over the years. Now, I'm down from 300lbs to 178lbs and ever since I passed 185lbs, I've had a lot more oppurtunities with women.

It feels weird, not gonna lie, it just sorta happened out of nowhere. A lot more women smile at me, talk to me, and look at me more. The attention I started getting just feels like a glimpse really. Not massive amounts, but noticably more. I'm still 10lbs away from being done entirely, as I do still look a bit husky at 178lbs.

Though, it's not just women, but people in general have been treating me better, even strangers. I will finally reach normal weight for the first time ever in the next couple weeks (173lbs according to my BMI) and I can't be more excited to finally see it!

For those who lost weight, what was it like for you? Did people start treating you differently?

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[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Thats my First part...catching somebodys fancy...they are nice to you because they find you pleasant to look at. Happens to my wife all the time. No makeup and comfortable clothes people are aloof, makeup and nice clothes they are chatty and holding doors for her, etc

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 3 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

Yep. It's just how it is. Nothing we can do, it's just built into our dna.

A lot of women find it a relief when their looks fade, since they never enjoyed that attention from strange men. Other women feel sad and invisible.

I think most guys have never gotten that kind of attention so we don't know what we never had.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah, in my wife's young days she used it to her advantage. Cop giving you a parking ticket, just act cute and you park where you like.

Now it makes her angry that people treat her nicely when she has put makeup on and styled her hair.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 17 hours ago

Haha yeah. :)

Life is interesting...