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Are friends just supposed to be like a TV? You talk to them when it's convenient for you and you can't think of something else to do?

I've just realized all the people I thought were my friends only talk to me on their schedule, when they feel like it. I'm left on read for days, meetings are ignored, text message conversations just end abruptly until they get back from vacation....

Is this it? Is this what friendship is? Because I don't want it. I don't want to feel like I have people to rely on only to find out that I'm just a convenience for people.

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[โ€“] snooggums@piefed.world 13 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

That isn't a friend, it is someone who shares mutual interests. You don't need to cut them off, just acknowledge the actual relationship and decide if that is what you want.

I have four friends. Those four friends also have their own lives and aren't available 24/7, but they will help putnif they can and I return the favor when I am able. There are a lot of other people I can hang out and do stuff with, but I wouldn't expect them to help out with something outside shared interests. They might, but I wouldn't expect them to.

[โ€“] schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 3 points 15 hours ago

This friend is someone I spent constant time with, someone whom I emotionally carried through his divorce; so I thought we were real friends.

Just saying it's not easy to distinguish because sometimes there is a form of emotional intimacy that makes you feel connected and then you find out that it's just one-way.