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Probably the best thing I've learned in life is to disassociate actions from results. Stop wanting so much, especially things the world can't possibly promise. Do things because they feel right to you, not because you expect something out of it. In this way you will never be disappointed.
In this particular scenario, are you confessing your feelings because you want them to know, or because you want them to like you back? If it's the former, go for it and then move on with your life. If it's the latter, prepare to be miserable over and over forever.
I should have added if I should be upfront or bring it up if it comes up
If it comes up or is obvious. Not before. You risk this person ghosting you otherwise.
My take is that you're already too invested.
Good luck. It's not an easy position to figure out.
Well we are in the same social group
If you tell them you love them, you won't be in the same social group anymore.
Why's that
Why's that
And?
Oh I don't think ghosting would be issue since she's been in the space longer than me
You don't want to leave.
Good luck.