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I've noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There's like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

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[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky

Basically, branching comments make it possible to UM AKCHUALLY everything, and so people do. It's not necessarily meant in a mean way; at least not all the time. It's just a way to contribute a bit more to the discussion, and you can learn a lot from whatever ubernerd or person from the other side of the tracks you meet here. Or at least, I have.

and judgmental.

Lemmy is also political, just by nature of what it is. Highly political communities are always full of infighting and holier-than-thou shit, IRL or online.

I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something.

That's an interesting one, because it's nothing like Reddit or general political communities.

It feels like it comes from the whole .ml/North Korea fan end of things. You go over to one of their instances, and there's a lot of trying to measure their dicks against each other with big words, long sentences and doorstopper citations. (If it actually makes sense is secondary)


Anyway, no, it's not just you. There's a lot of good stuff going on, too. Although anyone still on Lemmy is obviously going to give that answer.