I do the stuff she hates doing because it's Meh to me, she does the stuff that I hate doing for the same reason. Like she's fine doing dishes, but HATES putting them away, I'm the exact opposite. I'll put them away all day, I absolutely HATE doing them. Every now and then we both end up feeling super guilty over it because we're both thinking like "Man, I get a WAY better deal out of this. I'm so taking advantage of them..."

But we basically reason that as long as we both feel like we're getting a better deal than the other one and we're talking things out with each other it can't be too unfair in reality.

[–] iocase@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

That's the 60/40 rule in action. If you feel like you're doing 60+% of the work in a relationship it's probably roughly 50/50 (as long as they roughly feel the same)

We don't always notice all the way that people do things for us, and us to them.