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Better Never to Have Been: The Harm of Coming into Existence - David Benatar
I found reading this to be quite validating of my own life experiences and observations
This book is very well written but I disagreed completely with the premise. I believe is true that we don't choose to be born. We're forced into existence kicking and screaming but that's the nature of being. We are born we grow up we procreate and then we die. Some of us don't procreate by choice but I feel the desire to have offspring is innate to being alive. Some people and beings have a stronger desiree than others, and there's nothing wrong on following through and cires related to the suffering we impar into our offspring is not reason not to do it. Just like children's role is not to take care of their parents when they're old. All things considered, this is quite a philosophical debate.
I disagree. If you enjoy raising someone and taking care of somebody, who later becomes an independent person, you can adopt children and not create a new life, that gets repressed by capitalism, authoritarianism and humanity itself. You can love other people's children as much as your own.
One of the reviewers had a similar take: commended the quality of the writing but disagreed with the author's conclusion
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Better_Never_to_Have_Been