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I don't know if I'd be so quick to jump to racism for that. I think most people see an attractive person and think "damn, they're hot". If after a while they find themselves thinking this about a particular group more than others they'll start thinking they have a thing for that group.
I think it's creepy when people get super specific about the range of skin tone, nose, eye shape, hair texture, etc. that they like. When someone has a detailed list like that I find it objectifying, like they're selecting options on a car (or sex doll).
Maybe the person in your example does have a thing for Namibian women. But unless they asked invasive questions about every striking woman they encounter I don't think they'd ever realize it unless they're from the region.
Add to that the specific example of someone from the U.S. where ancestry can be mixed and uncertain. The person from your example might think they've died and gone to heaven if they ever visit Namibia but walking around an American city I think they can forgiven for just thinking they like black women.