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Did anyone's parents have sex around them? (lemm.ee)
submitted 12 hours ago by Churbleyimyam@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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Did your parents have sex around you as a child?

And if so, what (if any) effect has it had on you?

Is it weird/confusing/traumatic for children, or does it provide a healthier and more realistic model of sexuality than pornography and school-based sex education?

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[–] 211@sopuli.xyz 12 points 8 hours ago (4 children)

Link to those studies, please.

There's a huge difference to just seeing a naked body doing its thing, like sauna, or swim, or relax in the sun, or sleeping, or ill; and the same body as an erotic object

[–] MummysLittleBloodSlut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9681119/

At age 17-18, participants were assessed for levels of self-acceptance; relations with peers, parents, and other adults; antisocial and criminal behavior; substance use; suicidal ideation; quality of sexual relationships; and problems associated with sexual relations. No harmful "main effect" correlates of the predictor variables were found.

boys exposed to primal scenes before age 6 had reduced risk of STD transmission or having impregnated someone in adolescence. In contrast, girls exposed to primal scenes before age 6 had increased risk of STD transmission or having become pregnant.

It is suggested that pervasive beliefs in the harmfulness of the predictor variables are exaggerated.

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Notice the studies almost always cap at 6. I say “almost” out of caution, I have always seen it as 5 or 6.

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 7 points 7 hours ago

That's what I keep telling the community pool manager, but I'm still banned.

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 1 points 7 hours ago

I'd also like to investigate how this jives with the well documented sexual attraction dynamics of siblings. Those who grow up together are almost never attracted to each other no matter how much they see each other naked. Those that are raised separately and meet for the first time as adults are often very attracted to each other due to genetic reasons that apparently we have a mechanism for overcoming when raised together. I would expect to find there was a similar mechanism regarding our parents.

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip -4 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

I’m not getting bogged down in an argument picking apart my source because someone made up their mind already. Plenty to choose from it’s a well-trodden subject. Find a journal or outlet you respect.

[–] JokklMaster@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

My sources aren't strong enough so I refuse to share them.

FTFY

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 0 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Think what you want, you’re free to look it up or not. I don’t really care. I made an observation if yall want to follow it up or not. I’m not having a debate over this

[–] 211@sopuli.xyz 0 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

If it's so well trodden then share a review or meta-analysis, nobody (or at least not me, doubt anyone else either) will bother to dig out the referenced studies one by one.