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Sooo... when I took a motorcycle training class, they taught us a life skill that keeps you alive while biking, but at the same time is a valuable life skill outside biking:
SIPDE
For example:
I was riding my bike to work, the rising sun was at my back, and I see a car in front of me with her left turn blinker on.
Now, you might not ever be on a motorcycle, so this is an extreme example, but weed interferes with the process that can help keep you safe anywhere and everywhere.
There are many problems and threats in life, intentionally ganking your perception of them may make you feel better, but in the end is not helpful with dealing with them.
But what if nothing helps the situation?
Your approach is great, but if I did the SIP and now I'm stuck. I can't fix the issue and my ways of making sure it can't hurt me as much would mean sacrificing too much. So I can't really do the DE part and I am stuck knowing that I either continue to let it hurt me or I do something that would hurt me in other ways. This is a no-win-situation.
So now I'm essentially treating symptoms, weed helps with that.
You may not be able to help the situation, but your #1 priority is to protect yourself.
Think of it like this, there are a wide variety of things going on right now that are 110% outside our control. How do you best insulate yourself from the worst of it? How can you make it so it impacts you less?
You don't have to actually solve the problem, all you have to do is make sure you come out the other side with as little emotional/physical/psychological damage as possible.
Maybe that means getting help from other people, which is what you're doing here. Maybe it means reaching out to your in person support structure. Maybe it means admitting to someone else you need help, which is the hardest damn thing to do.
I don't have all the answers, all I can say is you need to look out for yourself, and things that make that harder to do (like weed) aren't your friends.
Thank you, I will reflect on this.
Good luck!