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Going opposite directions at night, what should men do if approaching a woman?
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According to Brent Staples' essay from a few decades ago, about how to not be seen as threatening as a black man in the US: "And on late-evening constitutionals I employ what has proved to be an excellent tension-reducing measure: I whistle melodies from Beethoven and Vivaldi and the more popular classical composers. Even steely New Yorkers hunching toward nighttime destinations seem to relax, and occasionally they even join in the tune. Virtually everybody seems to sense that a mugger wouldn’t be warbling bright, sunny selections from Vivaldi's Four Seasons. It is my equivalent of the cowbell that hikers wear when they know they are in bear country."
I'm ngl, hearing a lone man whistling Vivaldi's "Spring" in the middle of the night while alone would be kinda terrifying.
Makes me think of clockwork Orange
Obviously you're not a new yorker.
True that. East coasters are weird.
Thank you.
We have a lot of serial killers. Not saying the whistling shit is connected but idk it might fucking be. 😭 I would sprint.
If someone's out here in the dark with me being cultured, I am terrified.
That's eat my liver with fava beans and a nice Chianti energy.
The problem with that is that I'm a senior with reduced lung capacity. I can only manage a couple of seconds, then I run out of air.
Can I just have my phone play it?
Learn to whistle while inhaling. It allows for a higher pitch and I can whistle continuously for nearly a minute without a single proper breath