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What reason to you, is a reason to drop a friend for? (piefed.social)

submitted 1 day ago by Toasticus@piefed.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Mine is evaluated based on how many of them were there for me when I was at my lowest. It'd be unfair for me to evaluate them based on communication, because then that'd mean that everyone would be gone, so that'd be unfair. I also don't think evaluating people based on what they gift you or do for you is adequate either. So, yeah, I think the clear line basis of me removing a friend is about sheer balance.

I don't like friendships that are just unrealistic. Where they want only and nothing but the best from you and for you. Friendships are about enduring someone's worst and figuring it through too. If you just push someone away all of the time and leave them in dormancy where their mind tends to wander into places it shouldn't. That's one of the worst things a friend can do and it can also include up to things like not talking to them just for a check up every now and then.

So again, if more friends have let me down or dropping the ball, then that's probably my reason.

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[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Dropped friends for these things: Sliding down violent extremists political views Excusing (child) rapists Not respecting my partner after being told multiple times to cut it out. Only talks about sex/sexual stuff Only talks about politics and brings up politics all the time. Excuaing the heavy abuse of my parents.

I dropped a friend group once because i saw they were jerks and i wanted to change myself away from this.

Another group i abandoned because they kept on posting and saying ans posting racist and transphobic things next to being jerks. Since i have left this group i am doing better mentally in that aspect

[–] RaphaelSchmitz@feddit.org 1 points 3 hours ago

Sliding down violent extremists political views excusing (child) rapists not respecting my partner

I wouldn't value the respect of child rapists much, personally