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People treat you like you said the worst thing ever but you actually just asked "Are you sure you're bi? You've never been with a woman yet you might want to experiment more with your sexuality" to a man that recently started to have doubts of being bi in his 30's.

I got jumped by different people calling me biphobic and toxic and what not. And I'm sorry but I congratulate you if that question seems like the worst you've ever seen in your life.

I envy the privilege of having such an easy life that such a trivial thing sounds like oppression to you.

This is only on the internet tho, in real life this type of situation would never happen, normally people have too much going on to be offended by bullshit

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[–] Slowy@lemmy.world 13 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Do you think you’d actually say that to a stranger in real life, though? Maybe to a friend or someone else you were close with who understands your perspective and you’ve already developed common ground and rapport with. And that may be part of the issue with Internet communication. You are essentially talking to someone (or challenging them) about very personal things, with minimal understanding of them, and they have minimal understanding of you and your intentions as well.

Or it is just related to the phenomenon of people willing to be more confrontational behind the safety of their keyboard (in both directions).

With regard to why someone took offence to what you said, consider this: if a 14 year old boy said he liked women, would you also question his certainty in his sexuality even if he had 0 practical experience? Or is it only something you’d question for bi or otherwise queer people whose preferences aren’t conforming to the standard? I suspect the latter, because it’s pretty damn rare for anyone to ask straight people if they are sure they are straight… shouldn’t they have some homosexual experiences first to be sure?

[–] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 24 minutes ago* (last edited 24 minutes ago)

Well the difference is the stranger is asking about feedback on the internet? like be so for real. Also what stupid example is that, are y'all so mentally challenged that you can't see the difference between someone finding out their sexuality at 14 to someone doing so later in life?