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People treat you like you said the worst thing ever but you actually just asked "Are you sure you're bi? You've never been with a woman yet you might want to experiment more with your sexuality" to a man that recently started to have doubts of being bi in his 30's.

I got jumped by different people calling me biphobic and toxic and what not. And I'm sorry but I congratulate you if that question seems like the worst you've ever seen in your life.

I envy the privilege of having such an easy life that such a trivial thing sounds like oppression to you.

This is only on the internet tho, in real life this type of situation would never happen, normally people have too much going on to be offended by bullshit

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[โ€“] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

Pretty much the entire human race is subconsciously insecure AF, so they overcompensate by being judgemental of others whenever they can get away with it - which is why it happens so much more on the Internet where there are almost never IRL repercussions for their behavior. Being offended gives people an excuse to feel better than someone else for just a moment. It's very much like a drug addict - they get a momentary high from feeling superior, but "high" lasts less and less every time so they have to do it more and more.

Considering the stress so many are under with the state of the world today, the insecurities & associated need to overcompensate are very high. Since people are addicted to social media for their self-righteousness "fix" (where they can get it and get away with the behavior it drives), and the tech bros make shit-ton of money from being the "pusher", it's not gonna stop unless some law is passed to decrease the addictive "features" and/or people figure out how to "detox" themselves.

[โ€“] choihanna@lemmy.zip 1 points 31 minutes ago

I can clearly see that with the people raging on the comments ahaha