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What terrifies men the most about homosexuality? (feddit.org)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by ki4jgt@feddit.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've seen so many men terrified of anything gay themed. I've watched men refuse to be friends with people who didn't act manly enough. I've watched grown-ass men bark "f@gg0+," every time they saw 2 dudes expressing an interest in one another on TV. Pink Pony Club, I Kissed a Girl, and several other songs are a complete turn-off for them.

I have to ask, what scares you guys? What, sitting in the pit of your stomach, do you feel and think when you see gay things?

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[–] olafurp@lemmy.world 5 points 2 hours ago

I'm pulling this out of my ass, no pun intended, but I've always imagined it as homephobes distancing themselves from anything gay, especially being gay and liking gay stuff.

Like as in they would never go to a gay bar with their gay friend even though they platonically like the friend, enjoying dancing and so on. If gay stuff is on TV they have to affirm the mantra "I'm not gay so I don't like stuff" so they use slurs to reaffirm their stance.

There's also the thing where people view manly and gay as opposite. They identify as manly so they have to not like gay stuff.

Bottom line, I think they're insecure about their masculinity, afraid of actually becoming gay or both.