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Why is being a nice and good person less rewarding? (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 week ago by shojivr@lemmy.zip to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes
tried making friends, ended up ghosted
tried looking for better job, then scammed
tried save money, inflation happens
tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.
tried theraphy, the solution only dont think about it, its okay (if only it was that easy)
tried being nice, taken advantage of
tried being honest, get hatred
tried religion, yet god let million of nice person suffers
tried sleep, need regular medication
tried work hard, ended up surgery and years of rehabilitation

at this point, i am so tired with whatever i do, it always doesnt work.

right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does. even those people who ghosted and bullied me ended up becoming rich and succesful, and here i am struggle everyday. life is really unfair world.

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[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

We live in a world ruled by billionaire pedophiles, so the system rewards behavior similar to that.

On the other side of that - do not worry about being a “nice” person when that means your own well-being is being taken away. Be kind to yourself first (how you can, I know it’s not easy), then try to be around people who have similar ideals.

Society at large can be soul crushing. Life is hard and not fair. I don’t have an answer for you beyond what I wrote but I hope you can find some rest and a small relief in your near future.

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

thanks, lot of stuff happened to me, so its actually really hard to stay being nice person and i just hope that its better in the future.