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Why is being a nice and good person less rewarding? (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 week ago by shojivr@lemmy.zip to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes
tried making friends, ended up ghosted
tried looking for better job, then scammed
tried save money, inflation happens
tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.
tried theraphy, the solution only dont think about it, its okay (if only it was that easy)
tried being nice, taken advantage of
tried being honest, get hatred
tried religion, yet god let million of nice person suffers
tried sleep, need regular medication
tried work hard, ended up surgery and years of rehabilitation

at this point, i am so tired with whatever i do, it always doesnt work.

right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does. even those people who ghosted and bullied me ended up becoming rich and succesful, and here i am struggle everyday. life is really unfair world.

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[–] Ephera@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This sounds like either bad mood or depression, depending on how long it has been going on.

My impression is that you're getting way in over your head on these issues when it's just your body failing to produce the right endorphins.
Yes, having successes can help to produce endorphins, but our bodies are dumbasses. Literally going outside when it's sunny is often more effective. Doing sports is often more effective.

Yes, this means struggling against it some more. Having depression is not easy. But I'm also saying that the solution might be much simpler than fixing the whole world. And you should not focus on fixing the whole world, you should focus on fixing your dumbass body.

[–] shojivr@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

its been months since i am depressed, i do going outside occasionally, but the street around me is not even healthy because its dirty and lot of cars passing around or even park like they own their land here.