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Can you take a wild guess at answering your own question here?
Why would women be afraid of men they don’t know as a default?
Oh I'm well aware the answer. I'm 49 so I've learned that my world as a middle aged straight white man is not the lived experience of the vast majority of people.
We are not reflecting enough on that question.
But, and it's a big but, we are also not reflecting on what this is doing to the psyche of men of which the majority are "good".
I wouldn't have enjoyed growing up in a world where the default is to demonize me for being a boy.
It is not women's responsibility to put aside our fear of rape and murder to make men feel better about themselves. It's on men to call out other men, protect women in these types of situations, and treat others with kindness so that kindness can be returned.
We also need to educate our youth what respect and consent mean and that women aren't objects to be gained or used by men.
I didn't enjoy growing up in a world where women are sexualized and raped at such high rates.
I disagree in that it's on both parties to listen and what I am experiencing as women gain more and more equality and take over (thank God men have fucked up enough), they're making the same goddamn problems.
There is a urgent and growing problem with young men that is going to impact the lives of women and the response cannot be to point fingers and go "buh buh buh men!".
Most men will tell you rape is wrong. Most men will tell you overt sexualization is wrong.
The problem, simply stated, is that we have rightly been nurturing and lifting women to reach a point of equality in the system but we have not been spending that same energy in ensuring our boys and now men are not left feeling under threat and marginalized at the same time. They aren't but it's easy to feel that way.
I think in person we would have a lot in common and I believe we want the same thing. What matters is the approach. The current approach is going to be very dangerous if we continue down the road. The manosphere is simply one concerning symptom as is the rise of nationalism.
If there's one thing discussions around public cases will show is, this only applies when it's generic. As soon as you change the question to "Is this rape wrong, many men change their tune, and will find any possible reason to call this particular case not actual rape. So no, I don't think this actually tracks in the real world
The Cornell case is a perfect example of this.
How will it impact the lives of women?
Andrew Tate.
Oh ok, so if women aren't nicer to men, they're going to be raped and trafficked even more?
Great motivation.
Not what anyone here means. But telling little boys that they're all worthless evil rapists isn't healthy either. Do not be surprised when they listen to someone who tells them they're worth something. Do you really want that someone to be Andrew Tate? Because that'll definitely end up worse for women (and society in general).
Antagonizing little boys isn't the way we get out of this.
No one is saying that here.
How is OP antagonizing little boys by not engaging in small talk with a man she doesn't know?
We're in a thread talking about a growing problem with young men, and you're asking "How will it impact the lives of women". I'm just trying to answer the question... Just take a few seconds to reflect on how the message you're spreading throughout the whole thread (that 1/3 women have been raped, etc) can be received by young boys. That stat you quote elsewhere about 52% of men feeling we discriminate against men, why do you think they feel that way?
Overall, I agree that there's been a problem with discrimination towards women, and sexual abuse is a problem. But the way to solve it is to teach people about consent, not to treat every man as a rapist.
https://sh.itjust.works/post/68309381/27940884
I was responding to a specific comment.
I am not going to obfuscate facts because some men feel defensive that the majority of rapists share a gender with them. These are truths. It shouldn't be on women to shut up about what our lives entail because it makes some boys and men feel icky.
If they want less women to be raped, then they need to join with us to help tackle the rates of sexual assault.
That's exactly what I push for here and have never treated every man as a rapist. More education, more sex education, more knowledge about consent and what rape really looks like (it's not all forcible rape, etc), more empathy for girls and women.
Fair enough. But some of the attitude here seems to be "ewww creepy guy talked to you, you narrowly avoided rape" when in all likelyhood the dude was probably just awkward... We need more empathy in general, not just towards girls and women.
It's not that she definitely avoided rape by doing so, it's an explanation why women don't have to give men the benefit of doubt. That man's feelings aren't more important than her safety.
There's also the attitude here that she was being super rude and mean to this man even though he was rude for insisting on a conversation first.
Women do not have to be polite to men just because men want them to be.
He didn't insist, per OP he backed off immediately when the attempt to initiate a conversation was rejected. And IMO attempting to start a conversation in public is not clearly rude.
They do. Guilty until proven innocent
https://hbr.org/2020/10/how-men-can-confront-other-men-about-sexist-behavior
Is this really the study you wanted to use to prove your point?
Also that study is 6 years old and misogyny has been on the rise since then. Here's a more up to date study from the same source as yours:
That 36% figure is surprising to me, that's pretty high actually
Here's another study for you:
Women’s rights are regressing worldwide, warns UN gender equality chief
This one is also from 2026, by the way.
I just expect that women don't want to talk to me at random because they've had bad experiences with strangers in the past. I don't generally want to talk to random people either because of that and I'm a dude. It doesn't make me feel bad about myself or demonized because I know there are a whole fucking lot of shitheads in this world and there's no way to tell who's who. If anything I'd consider brazenly approaching strangers to be a bit of a red flag. It's not my fault or the woman who doesn't want to talk to me.